The one VERY surprising trait in the love life of ALL unhappy couples: “They’re not interested and it’s alarming.”
- Australian couples coach Dee Tozer has worked with more than 5,000 couples
- The Melbourne therapist says all couples should celebrate Valentine’s Day
- She claims that those who don’t are likely unhappy in their relationship
An Australian couples therapist claims that celebrating Valentine’s Day could save your relationship.
Melbourne-based Dee Tozer, who has more than 30 years of experience, says nearly all of the 5,000 troubled couples she’s worked with have had no interest in celebrating the day.
During her client sessions, she’s noticed four common reasons couples don’t recognize the annual day.
“It is my responsibility and personal investment to check in with my couples after 12 months and two years of work with me. 94 percent (non-infidelity), 96 percent after infidelity – report that they are fine and have no regrets,” says Dr. Tozer opposite Mamamia.
Melbourne-based Dee Tozer (pictured, centre), who has more than 30 years of experience, says that of the 5,000 couples she has worked with, almost all have had no interest in celebrating Valentine’s Day
opinion poll
Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day?
- Yes, 31 votes every year
- No, it’s too over-commercialized 86 votes
- I’m single 25 votes
While many believe that Valentine’s Day is now over-commercialized and used as a money-making ploy, the day dates back to the Romans in the 5th century but was not associated with romance until the 14th century.
Some couples may believe that love should be celebrated every day, not just one day of the year when cards, chocolates, and roses go up in price.
But even those who don’t acknowledge the day run the risk of feeling left out.
dr Tozer also believes that Valentine’s Day is an opportunity for couples to focus on their relationship and celebrate their love.
“I sometimes compare a relationship to a merry-go-round, it’s fun but loses its excitement with each lap. It’s easy to lose sight of why they got on the ride in the first place,” she said.
“The priority of dedicating time to indulge in each other’s love is diluted to the point where not celebrating that love becomes the norm.”
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Staying sane in the early stages of a relationship means being aware of red flags — or signs that something is wrong.
Australian dating and relationship expert Louanne Ward understands how easy it is to let emotions take over and ignore signals that things may not be as they seem.
She said that although there were red flags from the start, many people ignore these warnings and enter into a relationship that may not be suitable
Some common indicators are:
1. Rushing a relationship
2. You’re on social media but don’t have photos
3. They follow you but tell you they don’t know what they want
4. Watch out for sudden outbursts of anger
5. One person controls the contact
6. They keep you at a distance and don’t commit
7. Sex is always a topic of conversation
8. Telling little lies all the time
Couples with children often have little to no time for themselves, let alone romance – they usually focus all their energies on the children’s schedules.
Juggling work, kids, family, social activities, and sporting activities, parents can be exhausted by the end of the week.
Valentine’s Day gives couples an excuse to get a babysitter, go out to dinner and spoil each other.
dr Tozer believes that Valentine’s Day is an opportunity for couples to focus on their relationship and celebrate their love. “I sometimes compare a relationship to a merry-go-round, it’s fun but loses its excitement with each lap. It’s easy to lose sight of why they got on the ride in the first place,” she said (stock image).
dr Tozer claims she’s heard various complaints from men and women about how they respond to common misunderstandings.
For example, some may argue that Valentine’s Day is about the husband’s chasing down of the wives, while the day should be about celebrating the relationship as a whole.
dr Tozer says she’s heard men complain that they’ve bought their partner flowers and gifts without even receiving a thank you, while women believe their partner just wants sex.
When did Valentine’s Day become romantic?
Valentine’s Day is a holiday when lovers express their affection with greetings and gifts.
It is also called Valentine’s Day. The holiday has expanded to express affection between relatives and friends.
Valentine’s Day was not celebrated as a romantic day until around the 14th century.
Formal messages, or valentines, appeared in the 15th century, and commercially printed cards were in use by the late 18th century.
Source: Brittanica.com