I won’t tell you that I gave my daughter “the best example of a mother” because otherwise I would be lying like a toothpick. My life as a couple, let alone my life as a couple, has always been pretty stormy. Especially the last experience with his father.
He was a seducer who caught me in his net because I was willing to be caught. I saw him in my soup and did everything I could to get him interested in me until I caught him. Growing up in a dysfunctional family made it difficult for him to adapt. And even though my brother, who knew him very well, warned me about his ability to lie, I never wanted to believe him.
I married him and we had a daughter who has been the love of my life since I was born, as her father left us quite quickly as he found himself in a problematic situation with the prison authorities. After that I managed as best as I could. And believe me, Louise, I was pretty resourceful.
Thanks to this and my great ability to work, I raised this child as an adult to the best of my knowledge and belief. And without ever counting on her father’s help, even if he recognized his daughter at birth.
She then managed to finish high school, but not her CEGEP. Which caused him some problems. Then she had bad encounters that involved her in an environment that was said to be not quite like that kosherwhich she got out of when I managed to pay for therapy to get her out of the hole she was sinking into.
I’ll summarize the rest of her story here because unfortunately she met an immigrant from North Africa on the Internet who seduced her so much that she didn’t even want to see me anymore. He landed in Quebec, they married and had a boy.
Since this boy was born, I can only see her when the man wants me to. I feel excluded from the family, even though my son-in-law constantly says he likes me and my daughter secretly tells me the opposite. I’m scared for her and I don’t know how to tell her to leave him anymore.
Anonymous
The most important thing is to stay in touch with her, whether she tells you the truth about her reality or not. Stay present in family life and pay special attention to the slightest sign of distress on your daughter’s part. Stop making it a point to tell him to leave. Just stay around her in case she ever decides to send you a distress signal.