Give him a medal! Joe Jonas spends time with his children
This time last week I wouldn’t have been able to get pop star Joe Jonas out of a police lineup. If you had asked me what I would have thought about him, I would have said, “Uh… nothing?” However, over the last few days, I’ve had the misfortune of seeing his face everywhere and hearing from him nonstop. It’s possible you have this too. After four years of marriage, Jonas and actress Sophie Turner divorce; The news has sparked endless news coverage, bizarre rumors, and much online outrage over mom-shaming.
To be clear, Jonas and Turner may be celebrities, but their divorce is nobody’s business. What’s notable, however, is how misogynistic much of the coverage of their breakup was. Thanks to various “anonymous sources,” the narrative spun in tabloids like TMZ and the Chron is: Turner, 27, is a hedonistic party lover and absentee mother who constantly wants to go out instead of caring for her children. Jonas, 34, is a devoted father who takes care of his children all by himself even though his band is on tour. “She likes to party, he likes to stay home,” an anonymous source told TMZ solemnly. “They have very different lifestyles.”
Former Jezebel editor-in-chief Laura Bassett summed up the gist of the reporting in a viral tweet. “I guess that’s what I should figure out from all the carefully placed headlines [Turner’s] a partygoer and therefore a bad mother, while he is the heroic father who makes sacrifices,” Bassett wrote“but no one seems to ask why [Jonas] At 30 she decided to marry a 23-year-old and thought she would suddenly turn into a tradwife.”
The couple’s small children have been living with Jonas for months. But do you know why that is? That’s because Turner was filming in the UK and the two agreed that it would be best if the kids stayed in the US with Jonas due to Turner’s hectic work schedule. That’s it! This breathlessly reported situation is so banal! If the children had lived with Turner while Jonas was busy working in another country, no one would have batted an eyelid. After all, women are expected to make sacrifices for their children. They are expected to always put their children at the forefront of their careers. However, when a father spends time with his own children, he is praised for his “babysitting.” Whenever a father makes sacrifices that people normally expect of mothers, people seem to want to give him a damn medal. And let’s be honest, it’s not like Jonas is making any sacrifices. He undoubtedly has an army of hired help to look after the children and do the housework. He rarely had to give up his career for childcare reasons.
The Chron, in true Chron fashion, had a lot of fun with this story and published tons of pictures of Turner drinking around town. They juxtaposed these with pictures of Jonas at brunch. I don’t know if the Mail is aware of this, but it’s entirely possible to go out for a night out and still be a good mother. Again, if Jonas were out in the city, no one would accuse him of being a bad father. Fathers are allowed to have fun. They are allowed to have an identity beyond their descendants. However, once a woman is pregnant, her body becomes public property. Everything she does is suddenly viewed and questioned through the prism of her child. As the coverage of Turner shows, just imagining a woman over a glass of wine is enough to be labeled a bad mother.
Mexico is well on its way to having its first female president
Both major political groups have selected female presidential candidates, meaning Claudia Sheinbaum, a former mayor of Mexico City, will face Xóchitl Gálvez, a senator. Of course, it’s possible that a third-party candidate could come in and win, but at the moment it looks very likely that Mexico will have a female president next year. In other Mexico-based news, the Supreme Court has decriminalized abortion across the country. As the U.S. moves backwards on abortion, Americans may start traveling to Mexico to get abortions.
There is an app that allows men to rate the hotness of AI-generated women
Its name is Smash or Pass and it tells you everything you need to know about it.
Israel’s humiliating practice of strip-searching Palestinian women
Military raids on Palestinian homes are commonplace: sometimes soldiers are there to arrest people, sometimes the raids are just military exercises. Recently, Israeli soldiers have increasingly demanded that Palestinian women take off their clothes. An editorial in the Israeli newspaper Haaretz said: “It is clear that the demand that women strip in front of armed, masked female soldiers cannot be interpreted as an ‘operational necessity’, but rather as a method of humiliation for themselves “For the sake of, in the interest of the whole.” Purpose of automatic punishment, oppression and intimidation.”
Actor Danny Masterson was sentenced to 30 years to life in prison for rape
Masterton was convicted of raping two women in 2003, when he was at the height of his fame on the sitcom That 70s Show.
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(Some) women in England are being asked to help shape reproductive health policy
The government has launched a survey open to all women in England aged 16 to 55. Apparently, women over 55 have nothing valuable to say about their reproductive health experiences.
Looking for Eileen: How George Orwell wrote his wife from his story
I missed it when it first came out, but it’s an absolute must-read. A fantastic piece by Anna Funder about how Eileen O’Shaughnessy, Orwell’s wife, was erased from his biographies and stories. “When I recognized the methods of omission, they fascinated me,” writes Funder. “When women are not allowed to be left out, they are doubted, trivialized or reduced to footnotes in eight-point font. In other cases, the chronology is manipulated to hide it. But the most insidious way to suppress women’s actions is to use the passive voice.”
Donald Trump says he would like to debate the Duchess of Sussex
It seems I missed the memo where Meghan announced she was running for president.
The week in the Pawtriarchy
Don’t let her sweet face fool you, Gingee, a four-year-old Maine Coon, is trouble. For months she has been stealing everything she can get her hands on from houses in her neighborhood. The list so far includes “a child’s spade from the sandbox, a pair of safety glasses and – for some reason – a sieve,” said one of Gingee’s owners. She was eventually caught in the act when her owners set up a night vision camera and saw her sneaking into their home with a knife in her mouth, which she then left in her bedroom. I’m sure there’s a completely innocent explanation for this.