Writer Pamela Duckerman, 53, chose a different gift for her soontobe 40yearold husband: a threesome sex experience.
“For his 40th birthday I decided to buy him a vintage watch. But when I mention the watch, he says he didn’t actually want a material good, but a service: a threesome with me and another woman,” she told the Chron.
She said she wasn’t surprised. “He’s mentioned this fantasy before, as has virtually every man I’ve dealt with. I would always end the conversation and blurt out, ‘In your dreams.'” The idea wasn’t uncomfortable, but it felt logistically and emotionally complicated.”
However, Pamela said that this time she accepted the proposal. “I’m sorry that at 40 he’ll be sleeping with the same woman for the rest of his life. And I like what a threesome means: not dragging ourselves into middle age.”
The author then searched online for a candidate. A woman, identified only as “N,” responded with interest. The two met at a coffee shop, discussed the idea, and took a liking to each other. Pamela explains that they set rules about sex: “To keep it from becoming too much like a porn movie, we were both in control. My husband wouldn’t do anything if we didn’t let him.”
Pamela mentions that she’s noticed the experience is a lot more carnal and can also be messy.: “The threesome is so… well, sexual. I was so focused on organizing that I almost forgot to undress. And if you’re detailoriented like me, threes are confusing. It’s easy to lose track of who’s there.” “In what condition. There’s a lot of ambiguous whining. My husband said he was confused too.”
However, the author said she had no interest in repeating the experience. “My birthday is coming up and I want a watch,” he concluded.