Josée’s letter made me think as she describes the indifferent behavior towards her of her two daughters, aged 33 and 35, the youngest of whom is pregnant with her second child, although she was unaware of the existence of the first. Which led her to change her will and deprive her daughters of what she wanted to leave them in order to promote two humanitarian works.
Far be it from me to condemn her for this decision, as I do not believe that a parent necessarily has to favor their children in their will. I also think that his daughters’ ingratitude is unimaginable. What’s also surprising is that she hasn’t heard from her youngest in three years.
In my opinion, this situation is not a sign of a normal family. I suspect a latent problem that is not being expressed. Sometimes I also notice that my children are not grateful for everything we have done for them and sometimes the thought of disinheriting them occurs to me. But I quickly change my mind and wonder if I would be happier if I took revenge this way?
My children, I love them with all my heart and I believe they love me too. When I reflect with myself, I am satisfied with the communication we have and I take into account what they tell me when I complain: “Mom, don’t always wait for us, you can also call us!” » Even if When I often answer, “But I don’t want to bother you with my calls,” I know for a fact that you’re right. There is also a thought I read recently that makes me think: “When you give and hope for something in return, you are not making a donation, you are making a deal.” »
Michelle
It is indeed useful to distinguish between our emotional desires and our loved ones’ ability to respond to them. Sometimes you have to do violence to yourself by becoming more sensible. Especially when dealing with loved ones who are less inclined to cuddle and perhaps more independent.