- Leah Marie Mazur, 41, is sharing the concept with everyone after it worked out so well in her personal life
- Mazur runs Mindfully Ready LLC, which gives divorcees tips on how to “heal, parent with confidence, and find the peace and happiness you deserve.”
- Mazur went through a second divorce in 2018 and began working on the list to make her life less chaotic and negative
As New Year's resolutions get closer and closer, a Buffalo-based “divorce coach” is starting a new tradition of her own, replacing the typical “bucket list” with a “f**k it list.”
Leah Marie Mazur, 41, is sharing the concept with everyone after it worked out so well in her personal life.
Mazur runs Mindfully Ready LLC, which gives divorcees tips on how to “heal, co-parent with confidence, and find the peace and happiness you deserve.”
The so-called “bucket list,” immortalized in a 2007 film starring Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson, is intended to be a checklist of things to do before death.
“These are all things you have to say, fuck it, I'm done,” Mazur says of the “fuck it list,” which are things she promised to stop doing before her life is over.
As New Year's resolutions get closer and closer, a Buffalo-based “divorce coach” is starting a new tradition of her own, replacing the typical “bucket list” with a “f***-it list.”
She describes the list as things and types of people someone can remove from their life to achieve balance.
“You have to have this damn list — that is, in order to achieve these goals and be the person you want to be, you have to think about what you no longer have to tolerate,” she said.
“What do you need to let go of? What beliefs do you hold? What habits are holding you back?
Her personal goals include not worrying about other people's opinions, refusing to talk negatively about herself, and denying the belief that she won't find true love.
According to the New York Post, Mazur went through a second divorce in 2018 and began working on the list to make her life less chaotic and negative.
“I only say yes to things that get me closer to where I want to be and who I want to advance.”
In an attempt to live up to her list, she said she “got rid of people in my life who don't respect me or don't respect my boundaries.”
“I think, especially as women, we are much more likely to tolerate behavior that negatively impacts our well-being because we feel obligated or feel guilt if we don't,” Mazur said.
Leah Marie Mazur, 41, is sharing the concept with everyone after it worked out so well in her personal life
Mazur runs Mindfully Ready LLC, which gives divorcees tips on how to “support their healing process, parent with confidence, and find the peace and happiness they deserve.”
Mazur went through a second divorce in 2018 and began working on the list to make her life less chaotic and negative
“I had to learn that the hard way and say that from now on I only want to have healthy relationships in my life.”
The list is part of an attempt to become physically healthier by cutting out alcohol and caffeine.
Mazur also began training more to improve her physical and mental condition at the same time.
“When I tuned in and was honest with myself, I realized that these things didn't make me feel good,” she said.
She says she's still in the process of checking everything off her list, but she's in a constant state of self-improvement.
“It's an ongoing process, it's not necessarily something you can just check off and say, 'OK, that's done,'” Mazur said.
“It’s something you want to expand on over time.”