I don't know who's coming up with names for new dating trends these days, but we need to sit down and have a serious word.
You know, last year was all about going out with the “daddys.” You know, the older gentlemen who have their lives under control. The sexiest George Clooneys of the world who can say, “Have you done your taxes yet?” sounds like a warm hug.
But that was rejected. Yes, ditch your daddy because we're aiming for a much better man now. But hold on to your pearls, ladies, because the term for this new “type” is just as troubling.
They are called “baby girls.” Yes, all one word. And they are defined as “a man with vulnerable energy, in tune with his feelings and a little gentler.”
Jana Hocking reveals why she says goodbye to “Daddys” and hello to “Babygirls”.
You'll notice that all of the main actors in last year's films adopted these characteristics. Jacob Elordi in Saltburn, Paul Mescal in practically every film/series he's ever made, Pedro Pascal in interviews. They are emotional, slightly brooding and gentle.
They are the sensitive souls who rescue pets from shelters and stop their cars to help old ladies across the street.
Magnificent creatures.
Maybe this new “type” will really catch on because there is less stigma around therapy. As we get in touch with our feelings and learn to communicate in a healthy way, we expect the same from a partner. It definitely worked for me!
I found myself in a difficult situation with a man last year and realized that I hadn't made the best decisions for my life. So I went to a professional therapist and asked him for a simple favor: give me the tools to end this relationship once and for all.
Over the next eight weeks, my fabulously French, no-nonsense therapist did just that. By the time our sessions were over, I was in a great mental state, my confidence was restored and I started making decisions that were in my best interests.
Sure, it took a box of Kleenex and some hard truths, but my God, was it worth it?
I swore to myself that I would never fall in love with someone who didn't do the work on themselves like I did. That's why I love this new trend!
She explained that the gentler man who feels his feelings and expresses them confidently is the one she wants
There's a meme circulating on Instagram that says “Men, we don't want to see your account balance, we want to see your therapy receipts!” and to that I say PREACH!
If you're like me, you've seen the projects, the disasters, the guys you've dated with a touch of toxic masculinity – and where does that leave us? This is the case in therapy.
Just last week my best friend lost her family dog and she cried – and so did her husband. They grieved together and it was such a healthy way to deal with the pain.
If this had been 20 years ago, the man would have been expected to “hold it together,” put on a brave face, and push through the pain. But we all know where that ends. Either in a sudden burst of anger or worse, in compressed grief.
Opinion poll
What kind of man do you prefer?
- Fathers! 128 votes
- Baby girls! 70 votes
The “baby girls” are the ones who sit with us in our sad moments. They possess the greatest trait of all – empathy – and communicate their thoughts and feelings openly and honestly.
Doesn't that all sound rather progressive?
In the name of “research,” I went deep on YouTube to find examples of what a “baby girl” was, and there were basically hundreds of videos of Jacob Elordi being adorable.
He feels completely comfortable in his skin. He is slightly shy, polite and very sweet. Other videos showed Harry Styles behaving in a similar manner. Oh, and Keanu Reeves, definitely Keaun Reeves.
It's the complete opposite of the fake alpha types we encounter on episodes of MAFS or in the dark corners of the internet.
A “baby girl” would never tell another man to “shut up your wife.” Yes, I'm looking at you, Jack from Married at First Sight.
No, no, little girls don't have an inch of misogyny in their bones. They feel very comfortable in their own skin and it shows. In fact, I would say it makes them glow.
So ladies (and certain guys), can we please make this new type of man our non-negotiable issue in 2024? Let's embrace the partners who are good for our mental health and uplift us.
Too-taa-loo, bad boys. You are so 2023.
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