A recent college graduate lifted the veil on the “disgusting, misogynistic” and “fat-phobic” way her student body ranks women who want to join, and how she purposefully sabotages their efforts.
Eli Rallo, 23, joined Sigma Kappa when she was at the University of Michigan, but she clearly wasn’t a big fan of the way her sisters determined which girls should swear.
In a viral TikTok video, Eli breaks down the scoring system they used to rush, assigning numbers to sorority candidates based on five-minute conversations.
“It’s a nightmare, disgusting,” she says. “This is the best way to play women against each other, [to] to judge them for these most arbitrary things.
Eli Rallo, 23, joined Sigma Kappa while attending the University of Michigan. She recently shared an old email in which she explained how active members should rank potential new members.
“If you’re pretending not to know about the toxicity of Greek life, especially the sorority rush, I found this email while I was in Greek life,” she says in the clip, which has been viewed 1.5 million times since early February. .
“Rush” is a term for a sorority recruitment process in which rushers try to impress the sorority in order to get an invitation to join.
Eli’s old email includes a breakdown of the ranking system that Sigma Kappa used to rate each of the invitees, where each active number was assigned a challenger number.
“You have a five-minute conversation with [the rushee]. Then you should rate her one out of four. First, she will never return. Fourth, she’s great,” Eli explains, before adding that it’s all “based on a five-minute conversation.”
‘Makes sense, right? It’s completely fair,” she jokes.
Eli says that active members of her sorority met in groups, where they determined the rating of each member.
They were to assign each young woman a number from one to four based on a five-minute conversation.
She called it “disgusting, misogynistic” and “a nightmare” and said she couldn’t skip it because she would be fined.
She moves down the “disgusting” list, which explains that they should be given to freshmen they “never want to see again” and sophomores who are “weird, mediocre, or just plain good.”
In the second round of rankings, a one-point score is described as “don’t know how she still got through, get her out now.”
In the final round, a rush that gets all 1s or 2s is eliminated while all 3s qualify.
“I thought it was so disgusting and ridiculous that every time my group said, ‘Let’s give her Cs,’ I gave her all 1s,” says Eli.
“And then if my group was like, ‘Let’s give her one,’ I would give her a C to screw up the system.
She admitted that she sabotaged the process by giving the girls she liked low marks and the ones she didn’t like high.
“Because they wouldn’t let me not be at the peak,” she adds. “They charged me $100 a round if I didn’t go. But I thought it was disgusting, so I just tried to sabotage it.”
Many sororities and fraternities charge active members fees for missing events and meetings.
“I gave so many girls Bs. They said, “I want her to leave, get her out of this sorority,” and I was like, “Four, four, four. Bring her back! Eli continues. “I lived to sabotage.”
Looking back at the ranking system, Eli says, “That’s misogyny. This is fatphobia. This is a classist. There are so many terrible things.
“I just can’t believe it was in my email,” she says.
In other videos posted on her account, Eli explained that she ended up “giving up on sorority” because she believes “Greek life is patriarchal and racist”, noting that based on her experience, sororities and homes fraternities focus on “grouping people into elite groups”. …depending on how attractive they are.”