One wife was left “shocked” and “devastated” after her husband offered to have sex with her sister in an attempt to conceive her amid the couple’s infertility problems.
A Reddit The 34-year-old user – whose name is unknown – revealed that she and her husband, 37, are struggling to conceive.
They decided to consider surrogacy, and when the user’s 30-year-old younger sister agreed to carry the baby for them, they were delighted.
However, the excitement of the Reddit user quickly became devastating after her husband offered to do it the “traditional way”, meaning he would have sex with the Reddit user’s younger sister instead of implanting one. of her fertilized eggs by in vitro fertilization.
She said her husband said he wanted to do it just to save “time and money” – as IVF can cost more than $ 30,000 – but she insisted they were financially prepared.
She said she was “shocked, devastated and embarrassed” by his proposal and eventually “turned it off”.
One wife left “shocked” and “devastated” after her husband offered to have sex with her sister in an attempt to conceive her amid the couple’s infertility problems (stock photo)
She revealed the difficulty in the TrueOffMyChest subreddit and many people on the internet were worried and horrified by her husband’s actions
She explained that if they deal with it, she will always carry “the memory of how the baby was conceived.”
But now she said he “blamed” her and said she was “selfish” because he had always “wanted to be a father.”
She opened up about the difficulty in subreddit TrueOffMyChestand many on the Internet were disturbed and horrified by her husband’s actions.
“My husband and I are struggling with infertility. “We’ve tried some options and are currently considering surrogacy,” she began.
“My sister agreed to do it, but my husband said he looked at how much time and money IVF would take and slowly began to hint that we were adopting the traditional way.
“I was too shocked to say anything, but he acted as if what he said wasn’t such a big deal.
“He explained that it’s just a quick way to have a baby and set aside money and time to use later.”
The woman wrote that she was “100 percent against” and that she has since decided to completely give up surrogacy.
“I can’t even imagine my sister’s reaction after hearing my husband’s proposal,” she continued.
“I’m both saddened by the fact that one, he would even have fun having sex with my sister just because he wants the easy way, and second, if I ever agree, even though I feel uncomfortable, I will always carry this memory of it. how the baby was conceived.
In the comments section, she explained that her sister still “has no idea” about the situation and that “she is not even considering his proposal.”
She also added that they are “financially ready” for surrogacy, so money is not a problem
After expressing dissatisfaction with his idea, the Reddit user said that her husband began to accuse her of not trusting him – and blamed her for her infertility problems.
“Now he has started accusing me of not trusting him and saying that I am selfish, that I chose to give in when he still wants to be a father, as he expected when he married me,” she added.
‘[He’s] it mainly blames me for my infertility problems. I feel so devastated and as if my body is useless and has failed me to the point that I could expect some negative comment about it, whether true or not.
“Emotionally and mentally … I just can’t express how I feel right now.”
In the comments section, she explained that her sister still had “no idea” about the situation.
“I do not intend to tell her because I will not allow this to happen. “I’m not even considering his proposal, and if he wants to keep saying I’m the problem, then I’m fine,” she wrote.
“I’ve endured so much in recent years mentally, physically and emotionally and now it won’t be much different.”
Her post quickly went viral and has since received more than 8,000 comments – with some people sending their support to the woman and others criticizing her “cowardly” husband.
She also added that they are “financially ready” for surrogacy, so money is not an issue.
“I want to point out that we are financially ready. Otherwise, we would not have started exploring other possibilities, “she explained.
“He can be so paranoid and anxious when it comes to money, but in this case there is no good reason.”
Her post quickly went viral and has since received more than 8,000 comments – with some people sending their support to the woman and others criticizing her “manipulative” and “great” husband and encouraging her to leave.
“What you and your husband need is a divorce, not a baby,” the user wrote.
Another added: “There are many ways to become a parent. But not with this man! Right now, the lack of pregnancy is a blessing! Get out of this marriage!
“Your husband is not involved for the right reasons,” someone else said. “On top of that, he accuses you of not getting pregnant?” This doesn’t have to be a man to stay married to … let alone have a baby.
“It’s a huge red flag,” reads the fourth comment. “Like, a lot of red flags. It can’t get much redder.
“It’s an abuse – it’s out of the red flag,” said another user.
Others said that if he had sex with the Reddit user’s sister and got her pregnant, it would be her sister’s baby, not hers.
“He tried to manipulate her to let him fuck her sister when she resisted, he doubled that with guilt and shame, turning the question around to make her think his disgusting manipulative behavior was HER fault.”
“Damn, that’s scary,” another man agreed. “I’m sorry, but your husband sounds like hell.”
“Sounds like he wants to cheat on you with your sister and annoy you,” someone else said.
“I’m sorry if this comment seems rude, but it sounds like he’s fully aware of what he’s doing and emotionally manipulating you to do what he wants. There are too many red flags here.
Others said that if he had sex with the Reddit user’s sister and became pregnant, it would legally make her sister’s baby, not hers.
– This dude is broken. The husband does not act like that. Besides, this will be her sister’s egg, not her child’s … It’s not an IVF surrogate. Too strange, “one man wrote.
Another added: “This is not a situation of surrogacy. This will be your sister’s and your husband’s baby, and your sister will have no legal obligation to allow you to adopt your child after birth. This is absolutely unusual.
“IVF is not the same as your husband breaking up your sister, people,” said another user.