A singleton was stunned when a man branded her “unladylike” for eating a whole salad on their first date — because he wants a woman who “knows when to stop eating.”
Diamond Jackson, 23, of Dinwiddie, Virginia, had been chatting with a man on an online dating site for a week before asking her out.
They enjoyed dinner at a local restaurant and Diamond thought the date went well as they parted with a promise to see each other again.
So Diamond was stunned when her potential suitor texted later that night that he didn’t think they were “compatible” because of their eating habits.
Diamond Jackson, 23, of Dinwiddie, Virginia, was stunned when a man branded her “unladylike” for eating an entire salad on their first date — because he wants a woman who “knows when to start eating.” must stop”.
Mentioning his own strict lifestyle of meal prep and daily workouts at the gym, the man branded Diamond “greedy” for eating her entire meal that day – even though it was just a side of grilled chicken Caesar salad.
After her date’s unexpected admission that her appetite made him concerned she would “be overweight in the near future,” Diamond quickly blocked his number.
The care assistant is now using her bad experiences to urge other singletons not to ignore such dating “red flags” early on.
Diamond said: “I met him online through a dating app and we started talking and then he got my number and we started texting.
The single had chatted with a man on an online dating site for a week before asking her out
“We texted for about a week before we met.
“First impressions were pretty good, we had a good conversion on the date and our text message beforehand was pretty good too.
“While we were on the date, it didn’t seem like anything was wrong. Before we left we hugged and he said “Will I see you again?” and I said “Sure”.’
After saying, “I’ll remind you,” and telling Diamond to drive safely, they went their separate ways.
“Then later he sent this message and it caught me off guard because I thought everything went well. It was crazy, it was definitely unexpected,” she explained.
“I think it shows his true personality – how insecure and insecure he is with himself.
Mentioning his own strict lifestyle of meal prep and daily workouts at the gym, the man branded Diamond “greedy” for eating her entire meal that day – even though it was just a side of grilled chicken Caesar salad
The care assistant is now using her bad experiences to urge other singletons not to ignore such dating “red flags” early on
“Misery loves company and he must be pretty unhappy with life itself to even think like that.”
The text message Diamond’s date sent to her read: “Honestly, Diamond. You seem [an amazing woman] but I don’t think we’re compatible.
“You ate the whole damn salad, that’s not ladylike. [It] I have a feeling you are greedy for food and I need a woman who knows when to stop eating.
“You know I cook meals and go to the gym every day. I just have a feeling you’re going to be overweight in the near future.
“I still want to hang out, but that bothered me. I almost exploded.
“I love your mood and energy [though]. You’re perfect, that’s just one thing, plus it was our first date.”
He asked how she could “eat so much” on a first date when you’re supposed to have “butterflies.”
After returning home from the restaurant date in the neighboring town of Colonial Heights, Virginia, the nursing assistant was stunned to receive the man’s scolding text message.
Diamond says she only ordered a portion of grilled chicken Caesar salad for the evening’s meal
Diamond says she only ordered a portion of grilled chicken Caesar salad for the evening’s meal.
Meanwhile, her “hypocritical” date ate his entire meal of chicken, asparagus, and mashed potatoes, as well as a whole basket of bread before the main course.
Diamond said: “I had a Caesar salad with grilled chicken and he had some sort of parmesan chicken with grilled asparagus and mashed potatoes.
“He ate most of his meal and only left a few pieces of asparagus.
“He ate like the whole basket of bread you get before you eat, so he’s really a hypocrite.
“I have a feeling a grilled chicken caesar salad is healthy. For me, every salad is healthy.
“It wasn’t even a big salad, I got the side salad so it was like ‘wow’ for him to say that.
“Had I gotten the large salad, I probably wouldn’t have even finished it, but the side salads are pretty small.
“I didn’t reply to the texts – I felt like no reply is a reply. I laughed at that and then blocked him.
Diamond posted to Facebook about her bizarre dating experience and was bombarded with more than 6,000 comments from people sharing their confusion at the man’s text
“My feelings were a little bit hurt, but it was like ‘whatever’ — I didn’t really take it to heart because he wasn’t the kind of person for me.
“I understand everyone has standards, but that was just stupid.”
Diamond posted to Facebook about her bizarre dating experience and was bombarded with more than 6,000 comments from people sharing their confusion at the man’s text.
Some even accused the anonymous suitor of being “fatphobic” and “controlling” — and warned Diamond to “run away from him.”
One commenter said, “He deserves to be alone if the potential for chub scares him before it even happens… *a whole SALAD*.”
Another said: “This isn’t a potential boyfriend, this is a prison guard wanting a cheap date […].
“RUN, don’t walk away from this guy and leave him in a cloud of dust. […]
‘Not on dates that are so obviously superficial and controlling, doomsday chants from the start.’
A third said: “People are weird. I’ve never heard of anyone being put off by the fact that someone ate their entire meal.
“Should you only eat half a salad? I’m confused… How damn what [does] he eats?’
The nursing assistant says she will never date the man again, but will continue dating until she finds Mr. Right.
She’s now using her “lucky escape” dating experience to give others an early warning of “red flags” in relationships.
Diamond said: “I will go further because not all guys are like that and there are a lot more fish in the sea.
“I’m glad he did it sooner rather than later because it usually takes most guys six months to show their true selves, but this guy pulled it off on the first night. It was a very lucky escape.
‘Don’t ignore the red flags and pay attention to the signs.’