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Silvia Galipeau The press
Alex loves sex. He loves to discover, to experiment, to play. His girlfriend? Fewer. But they found a “compromise”: erotic photos. Maintenance.
“I’m really glad to meet you!” ‘ he tells us immediately, barely seated in a small bistro in Drummondville. “Because I can’t talk to anyone about it!” My girlfriend wants it to be private! He would tell everyone about it: “I recommend it to all couples! It’s such an amazing experience! »
How did you come up with that? Long and revealing story that the talkative man in his mid-forties needn’t tell.
So there you have it: He and his girlfriend have been together for 30 years. She is the third woman Alex has in his bed, after first being blonde at 17, then flirting with a roommate the following year.
They met in college. “In French class,” he recalls. She was very discreet, never made up, very natural. And that’s how I like her. No, it wasn’t love at first sight, “but what sparked it?”
Still, he wouldn’t have bet on this pair. “When we say opposites attract, let’s say it really applies to us. I’m very organized, very athletic, you, no. I have the beat in my blood, she doesn’t. […] I’m hypersexual, that’s for sure, my girlfriend isn’t. […] It’s for sure that I’m 98% the enterprising one […], it is rather passive. We got that. “I’m the couple’s asset,” he affirms.
Admittedly, in bed “there are things she doesn’t want to do and that’s not a problem,” he takes the trouble to clarify. “We still fuck so much. And it’s still just as good. »
In the early years, their two personalities “collided” a little, he admits. But they went. “I don’t want to hit her, so I’m ashamed. “She has a nice ‘open-mindedness’ on her part,” he argues.
But ? “But it’s long! To give you an idea, sex toys lasted ten years! It’s not necessary, she believed. “It’s perverted! »
Today they have a whole collection of them and are happily enjoying themselves (proof: “I don’t know if you know the Womanizer?” he asks knowingly).
“We always managed to adjust between sips of beer,” Alex continues. But it is never she who initiates. I always am. What if it bothers him? “No,” he smiles contentedly, because she always says yes. »
We have to accept that we are not all the same. […] In compromise, the pair will evolve. We made a lot of compromises and shooting is one of them.
Alex, 49 years old
Here we are? Not yet. It has been for years, and not to rush her, Alex hasn’t told his girlfriend everything. And at that very moment of the interview, he also talks to us about his own fantasies, his dreams of threesomes, licentiousness (“Sexuality for me is above all a game!”) and everything that he has kept buried for a long time. It has to be said that Madame, for her part, doesn’t talk too much about the matter either. “I know none of his fantasies!” But I know she has! Finally I hope! Until one day Alex decided enough was enough and told him everything. Bang, suddenly. It was ten years ago.
We imagine the surprise. Shock. Worse: “The collision,” he confirms with a grimace. But he was adamant, offering this clever “compromise,” as he says, “There’s one thing I want to do with you and that’s a photoshoot. You are beautiful, you are sexy, I want to immortalize that. »
And ? “It’s open,” Alex recalls. We don’t know exactly how he did it, but a year later they had a photographer, a hotel suite, a project. And he’s happy about it to this day. “It went really well. Zero discomfort, zero discomfort. So much fun! ” The fun ” ? “Everything,” he explains. Don’t just do it, plan it, think about it, yes do it, and then choose those memories for life! »
We suspect seeing him beaming is all a bonus of some exhibitionism. And Alex doesn’t hide it. “Yes, yes, yes,” he nods. Because we didn’t say it, but he’s obviously taking part in the filming. What he wants, at the end of the day, is to “enjoy it, receive it, and have it all on film!” These are memories for life! ‘ he emphasizes.
In ten years they repeated the experience a couple of times. “She likes it,” he says, supporting a black-and-white photo.
“She doesn’t like to plan or take care of them […], but she embarks, and I have never forced her. “And over time ‘she allows herself more and more…’ he slips off, visibly pleased. Modest at first, the photoshoots have become a bit more erotic with time (and experience). Naughty, shall we say.
And has all of this changed your sexuality? “It enriched her, but it wasn’t a stepping stone, Slice Alex. Making love in a room at 10am is one thing, pleasuring yourself in front of a camera is another. »
The end of the story ? Not exactly. He hasn’t told us everything yet. Or he didn’t mean everything. In fact, with one of the photographers (and his girlfriend, then some of her friends), there was “springboard” eventually. “Erotic games,” he nuances, but nothing more. “We quit my friend, it didn’t irritate her too much. […] I’m glad we tried, we made it together, it was another experience but not a commitment. And they never spoke about it again.
On the other hand, the photos, yes, they talk about it again. Because it’s something they can do together and pursue “as a couple.” your common ground. Sorry, your “compromise”.
“And it must go on. Keep diversifying. Don’t fall into routine, because routine kills in sexuality! […] But you have to realize that the other is not like yourself. […] And work on compromises so the couple can get together,” he concludes. His way of life for 30 years what.
* Fictitious first names to protect anonymity