We all get turned on and off by certain things or people, but sometimes you don’t know what or who that is until you actually experience it in the moment. So when someone you don’t expect to arouse you does, it can be even more frightening and short circuit you.
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When u/AdAppropriate6975 asked, “What did your boyfriend do that accidentally hit on you?” A few people came forward with their stories:
1. “The whole group went to clubs. He said something I couldn’t hear. He bent down and spoke into my ear. In that second, I questioned our two-decade platonic relationship.”
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“I didn’t even hear what he said.” —u/BitchIsLit
2. “I went to a friend’s house to play DnD. She made us all nachos and chicken. I ended up going to wash up so as not to leave her with all our mess on my chest, staring me straight in the eyes and telling myself I didn’t have to help. It wasn’t overly sexy, but she held my gaze and had her hand on my chest a little longer than I expected. Anyway, we’re married now.”
“I know now that it was more than innocent to her. However, we had been friends for nine years at this point, and during that time there was a lot of hugging/lap sitting/generally friendly physical contact. That was the one that gave me the electric tingles.
In nine years I seemed to have completely forgotten all previous attempts at flirting. I’m so clueless when I know when people hit on me, it was mentioned in three different speeches at my own wedding.” —u/gabjam
3. “We were joking, and she turned, grabbed my neck, and lightly strangled me.”
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“I haven’t been the same since.” —u/axsirik
4. “They came to bring food and medicine while I was sick. I wasn’t in the mood at all, but I wish I was.”
—u/chrisandfriends
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5. “We were at a party drinking and I got an injection. I said, ‘This is gonna kill me.’ He looked straight at me and said softly, ‘Don’t worry, I’ll take care of you.’”
“I threw that shot right back.” —u/ms_ing
6. “She dropped me off at the airport. I said thank you, goodbye and kissed her on the cheek before turning to get out of the car. When I wanted to get off she said, ‘Is that it? ‘ I turned around and looked into my eyes and suddenly my heart started to ache. Suddenly I didn’t want to go anymore. We hugged but it was the first time we did that wasn’t as fair as friends.
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“I remember holding her in the car, not wanting to let go and having this rush of feelings that I had never allowed myself to have before. I remember when I arrived at my destination – I was going to visit my aunt for a few weeks – and my aunt mentioned that my heart seemed broken.
I knew in that moment that I was in love with my best friend. We’ve been together since I got home and just celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary.” —u/Veeksvoodo
7. “A girl I befriended on a school field trip in high school fell asleep on my shoulders on the ride back.”
“I’m still floating in that memory.” —u/[deleted]
8. “I was fumbling with a train while dancing with a friend one night. I thought he was going to dunk me but he spun me around instead. Still, my mistake was enough for him to notice, so he dunked me and said, ‘There, I’ve got you this time.'”
“No right to be as hot as it was.” —u/InsideJokeQRD
9. “She did what girls do when they bow their heads. She was listening to me talk about MRSA (we are nursing students) and smiled as she listened to me elaborate on the disease for a testing briefing. Then she tilted her head very slightly and fixed her very pretty eyes directly on mine. That mixed with the slight smile made my stomach clench and I just started stuttering like an idiot.”
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“It just happened about a week ago.” —u/bayala43
10. “She attacked me — not even in a playful way. She did her best to bring me down (and generally succeeded). We’ve always been just friends, but in those moments, after we hit the ground, I sometimes felt a little bit different.”
—u/boo pooh
11. “I was pretty good, if not the best, befriending someone I never thought I would be attracted to. We were in the bar one night and I was cold. He took his favorite jacket, put it over my shoulders and… hugged me.”
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“I got a feeling for him that I will never forget afterwards.” —u/Gizmotto
12. “I asked her before a party if my eyeliner was smudged. She cupped my chin in her hands and gently but firmly turned my face back and forth to examine my makeup. Then she patted my cheek lightly and said it looked fine. I couldn’t even thank her, I just nodded.”
“We moved on while I collected myself lol.” —u/every pebble
13. “He rolled up his sleeves and backed up perfectly. Yes it was in a manual car. Yes, he put his hand on the back of my chair.”
“It was a hot summer day, so he rolled up his sleeves before we got in the car.” —u/potential-skin-8610
14. “I was annoying him, so he lifted me over his shoulder and dropped me onto the couch. No problem.”
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“I was kinda hoping he’d hit me after he put me over his shoulder, but…” —u/Desperate-Exit692
15 “I’m very tactile, and he’s not tactile with anyone. However, he always pulled me to him when we were outside and it was chilly, sat in my room at work meetings, and put his hand on my lower back when I walked in front of or beside him. It wasn’t anything overtly sexual, but the fact that he wasn’t doing that with anyone else…”
“Oh my.” —u/driftwood-and-waves
16. “One night I went out for a drink with my boyfriend. A guy I knew hit on me, asked me to go home with him and was very aggressive. I refused, and the guy immediately turned on me friend. He got in my boyfriend’s face and said it was his fault that I wouldn’t go home with him and that he was a cock blocker. My friend just stood his ground, crossed his arms and told him to go in a very calm and steady voice. The drunk guy eventually left but it was so stimulating to see my friend remain so level headed and calm in a tense situation when I’m used to men being so reactive.
“It was super hot.” —u/idunno324
17. “It wasn’t exactly stimulating, but when I was in art school, we went to a museum with a clown exhibit. One of my classmates – with whom I had very little contact before – was afraid of clowns. Eventually something scared her and she grabbed my arm. I was like, ‘Me big ape, I’m protecting the pretty lady.’”
“As stupid as it was, I had a bit of a crush on her afterwards.” —u/lord_bubblewater
18 “She showed me how the tattoo on the back of her thigh moves when she bends forward. I was 19 and she was wearing short shorts. That was enough to make me blush.”
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—u/GIMike03
19. “A button on her shirt popped, exposing more tits than she had ever exposed around me. In the end we got married. It was a happy coincidence.”
“We’re going on for 10 years too.” -u/Chromeasshole
20. “Helped me put on a tie because I didn’t know how.”
—u/WWWWWWVWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
21. “We wrestled and I pinned her. She said, ‘If this was a movie, we’d be making out right now.’ I didn’t respond to that.”
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“That was 15 years ago. I was just her maid of honor at her wedding. I love her, but uff.” —u/bloodlust
22. “I was hanging out with a couple of my male friends, and they all started kicking a ball around. I was sitting next to some cool flowers that I wanted to paint. I wasn’t paying attention and at some point the ball was coming towards me. One of the guys ran right in front of me – inches from me – to stop him. He then spent about five minutes checking if I was okay and then he patted my head.
—u/Ralts_Shinx
23. “Called me sir. I didn’t even know that was turn on.”
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—u/PurpleIncarnate
24. “We both tried to grab the same cup and looked at each other.”
“We’ve been together for a while now.” —u/caught by deercam
25. “‘Get your butt in the car, we’re going to get Chinese food.’ He knew I wasn’t in the best of shape and we had been friends for a number of years. He drove to find me when I wouldn’t tell him where I was. After dinner he drove me to the store. Get Nerf guns and we fought.”
“I ended up marrying him.” —u/Signal-Block-1797