Admit your mistakes. Jacob Rapini takes the blame for his recent breakup with his Bachelor in Paradise colleague Jill Chin.
“You were the right person at the wrong time,” Rapini, 28, wrote in a letter to the 27-year-old shared via Instagram on Friday, December 2.
“You gave 100% while I gave 80%,” he continued. “They have pushed me to look for quality work, change my schedule and focus on my family instead of hollow relationships. They asked for better communication while I lacked it. They showed up when I didn’t. Trust was lost.”
Bachelor Nation watched the sparks fly during an October episode of BiP. However, their brief relationship failed the “Split Week” test when Rapini left Chin Kate Gallivan. Watching their early days when the season aired on ABC caused the two to reconnect.
“After our one-on-one interview aired, we were like, ‘Oh, we’re catching the feelings again!’ And then we talked more and more,” said Chin Natasha Parker and Joe Amabile on Thursday 1st December episode of the “Click Bait” podcast. “And then about three weeks before the reunion, we decided that we probably wanted to try that, so we just wanted to talk and try it.”
However, a week after the public announcement that they were back together at the Bachelor in Paradise reunion, the couple called it quits.
“I had to do what was best for me,” the architectural historian added on the podcast. “And there’s only one line and standards you have for yourself that you just can’t let people cross. I have no ill will. I don’t wish for bad things.”
Chin concluded: “I think I’ll leave it at that – the trust was broken. And that in a long-distance relationship you need communication and trust, and we didn’t have either.”
Rapini took full responsibility in his message, noting that his emotional immaturity made their long-distance relationship even more difficult.
“Yes, the distance was an important factor for me. Being 2,000 miles away comes with some challenges, but that wasn’t the main reason. It was a willingness to get involved. I appreciate you getting me to realize this at the expense of your trying to make it work,” the Arizona native explained on Friday.
“We had talked before the reunion and were both willing to try. On reunion, I wanted to show you a glorious moment to somehow undo the pain I caused in Mexico,” he added. “But it’s not about the big moments. It’s about the little things. I wasn’t there to give you my whole heart for my insecurities. I need to refine a lot before I can be there mentally and spiritually. “
He concluded: “You deserve to be loved. Right now I deserve to be alone. Jill, good luck on your journey angel🖤.”