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Silvia Galipeau The press
That could be. It happened to him. And she wants to testify.
Chanel made us an appointment at her small apartment on the South Shore, where she’s only just moved, since their breakup of course. She used to have a big house. Means. A way of life. Today, of course, somewhere else. But she has so much more.
“I’ve never read a story like mine,” she begins. I have a feeling it’s being censored. […]. But I wanted to tell myself because sometimes it can end well. We may meet our soul mate in an extramarital affair…”
Of a visibly reserved nature, Chanel speaks freely about herself here, despite the secrecy that still hangs over her idyll. Everything is still so fresh. Too fresh.
Chanel discovered sexuality around the age of 16, she says. It was with a first lover. “But it wasn’t true love. ” In bed ? “Stupid, so I thought it was so boring all the time. I didn’t know anything else! »
The story lasts four years, after which Chanel goes to university. And she studies, exactly. “One night, I’ve never done that before. […] I concentrated on my studies. »
In her early twenties, she had a few flirts, “little buddies,” who “never clicked.” “I expected Prince Charming too much, she thinks. I quickly became disillusioned. I’ve always been looking for that story I’ve been waiting for, a “wow sexuality!” ” In vain.
Then, in her mid-twenties, she met the future father of her children at a party. “It clicked, I thought it was funny and we fell in love quickly. They quickly moved in together and quickly started a family.
It’s sexually better this time. “Better than what I imagined,” she says. It suited me. We had an audition, it lasted more than four minutes, he was loving…”
But ? “But I got pregnant quickly and our sexuality declined. We distanced ourselves. With a quick sexuality…”
It doesn’t get any better after the second child, on the contrary. “We were set on making love once a month. »
Chanel pauses and ventures her thought: “I can’t believe it, but I was starting to get sexually frustrated…” She has mood swings, is less patient, and often comes back to the subject. “Especially when we were having dinner and drinking wine, she slips, I sent him messages: I’ll look elsewhere if you’re not doing your job! »
For his part, Monsieur accuses her of being the problem, she must be frigid, etc.
Chanel still remembers her daily routine at that time: work, dinner, homework, bedtime: “Everyone from their edge, no beak. It was cold, a little. »
Cuddling, maybe 15 years is too long as a couple?
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And then ? “And then I started training,” she continues. And I met mr. What is it’s name? Let’s say Romeo, she said, laughing.
“And we started training together. We managed to go there at the same time. It was very platonic, but we really enjoyed talking…”
It’s not love at first sight. Rather, it is through their conversations that a chemistry forms. Also, one thing leads to another and from machine to machine they talk about sexuality. “He was also in a relationship,” she said. And nothing happened. […] I don’t remember how, but in the end we decided to go to the hotel. »
The adventure should be an “experience”. For her part, Chanel wants to see if she’s actually the worry in bed. “And in the end it was… ecstasy!” I didn’t expect anything and that was it. Think: hours of pleasure, making love and repeating. “Everything was perfect,” she emphasizes. Everything went by itself, I had never known that! »
It should remain one adventure. But the chemistry helped, they wanted to start again. Once, twice, a hundred times. Three years to be exact.
3 years ? “Every week,” she agrees. And after three years it’s still wow. It never went down. It’s always better. […] It’s always magic, it’s never been good! »
Questions swirl around in our heads. And his life as a couple? The lie ? Did it bother him or not at all? How did she keep it all up? She answers without hesitation. “That put balm on my heart. I came back home and was able to lead my family life. I was happy somewhere Admittedly, feelings of guilt gnawed at her “at the beginning”. “The first five or six months I was terrified, I was afraid my boyfriend would feel it, it seemed to be written all over my face. But less and less in the long run. i was so good! »
So good that what had to happen happened. she fell in love And vice versa. “And my boyfriend was getting on my nerves more and more. »
We won’t know the details, but the fact remains that Chanel has taken the plunge. In the end she left her husband. “I told him I didn’t love him anymore…” That was a year ago.
“Of course I feel bad,” she confirms. He is the father of my children. I have to see him regularly. I’m stuck in this secret. Of course it would free me to tell him: I betrayed you. But everyone tells me: What would it bring me to hurt him? To relieve me? So I’ll keep it to myself…”
Since then, she has taken this apartment and continues to secretly meet her lover. A time long. Time to let the dust fall.
And then ? She doesn’t want to make the same mistake again. “I don’t want to live with him as long as I have a child under my roof,” she said. I don’t believe in that anymore, the mold! […] We all stay at home and get bored. I want it to stay like this forever. Nice. No routine. […] Routine kills a few…”
* Fictitious first names to protect anonymity