Reddit unites in support of a parent and their important decision. A dad took to the Am I The A** Hole forum to share why he decided not to pay for his daughter’s wedding – and asked if he was right or wrong.
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“My (39 million) daughter (21 F) is getting married this June, since she was a little girl I promised to pay for her wedding but something happened two days ago that made me change my mind change,” he began. “Background. My ex-wife and I had our daughter very young, (18) we got married, after six years of marriage I was able to find myself and come out to my wife, she understood and we had a very amicable divorce and separate custody , my daughter was always dad’s girl and always got along well with my partner (38M) of 14 years.”
Now his daughter is getting married and has some specific, hurtful demands. “Because her future in-laws are so conservative and religious, my husband is not allowed to attend the wedding; I said ok it’s your day,” the Reddit user wrote. “My son (2) cannot participate either. No, it won’t be a childless marriage. I can’t talk about my ‘lifestyle’ because she doesn’t make her in-laws uncomfortable.”
The father told his daughter that if her in-laws are that important to her, maybe they should pay for the wedding. “She got mad at me and called me a kid and said if I stick with that ‘attitude’ she’ll ask her FIL to walk her down the aisle, then I said, ‘Fine if my family isn’t welcome and I I’m barred, I’m not paying for the wedding,'” he wrote. “She was angry and said I was being selfish, picking favorites and not thinking about them at all.”
So many people, he concluded, were upset with him for backing down from paying. “So AITA here?” he asked.
The final answer was no, he definitely isn’t.
“The moment your own daughter told you that your partner wasn’t welcome at her wedding because of her homophobic in-laws, you absolutely became an NTA,” wrote one Reddit user. “You don’t have to pay for an event — not even your daughter’s wedding, not even if you’ve promised her once — where your significant other, the man you love, is the father of your other child, and a MAN WHO HAS NEVER HURT OR HURT YOUR DAUGHTER IN ANY WAY (most important) is not welcome to stand by your side as a welcome member of your family. Period.”
Another person added, “She can’t disregard your marriage and try to hide it while expecting you to pay for hers.”
And then there was this really excellent point:
“OP’s daughter tries to prioritize her future in-laws’ homophobia over OP. As a general rule, if someone is sympathetic to another person’s bigotry, they are supporting bigotry. They indicate that they agree to this,” wrote one user. “Let’s not beat around the bush: OP’s daughter is homophobic. OP has absolutely no obligation to support anyone who is homophobic towards him.”
What do you think? Should he still pay for the wedding?
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