Fiammetta Cicogna presenter, actress (she was the blonde stylist Monica in the Made in Italy series about the birth of Italian fashion) and entrepreneur, tells for the first time exclusively that in the cover interview of the weekly magazine F of Cairo Editore, from tomorrow on newsstands End of her relationship with Carl Hirschmann, the Swiss entrepreneur with whom she had twins Gaia and Gioia, who are now three and a half years old. Here is an excerpt from the conversation.
But all is not as it seems.
“Social media has gotten us used to thinking that there are no dark moments in other people’s lives. Bourgeois culture has taught us that “dirty laundry is washed at home,” so women have spent years hiding and living alone in domestic violence, abortions, and postpartum depression. In this interview I would like to openly tell why the relationship with my partner ended, because I hope to be able to help some women to better assess their life situation. I have absolutely no negative feelings towards him, on the contrary. But in today’s society, I think it needs more sincerity.”
How did you meet?
“He saw me at a charity auction and bet on me. Those who know me said to him: “Forget it, she’s a good girl”. But he was fixed, he was a bang for months until we got together in 2014. I was 26, he was 34. How did he conquer her? Beautiful, nice, interesting: you couldn’t resist him. But above all, he was the only one who noticed my rocking side, who understood that I was tight in the bourgeois milieu of Milan. In fact, Carl was freedom for me. But very soon it also became my prison».
You explain.
“Prison for mistakenly but consciously committing myself completely to our love, his travels and his work and leaving mine to stay by his side. It was immediately clear to me that a man like that would give me a headache, I knew it, but I let myself be wrapped up anyway. I was in love and fell into the usual trap: he will change with me, I will save him ».
He spoke of women.
“He always wore them. It didn’t matter if I was by their side, even with a baby bump, they came like bees to honey. Especially when we resumed our lives by moving to London. Unfortunately, some men always need to seduce, a strong feminine role that makes women feel understood. die of envy I was a lot but I never pointed it out and I was wrong. From this experience I learned that in relationships you have to be honest from the beginning, with yourself and with your partner. In reality, he had been with me: he told me right away that he wanted the freedom to meet and explore other people, including women. With some couples it can even work out if everyone is happy, but I’m not and that’s why the relationship gradually broke down”.
Does the same freedom also apply to them?
“It’s enough for me to love a man and he knew it. That’s why he loved me. Maybe I was naive but he had this talent to make you feel like the most important woman at certain moments and that was enough for me, I felt like I had found my place in the world.”
Did the girls suffer from the breakup?
“I think kids are better off when both parents are quiet. Our couple was beautiful, but together we were toxic to each other and silently fought each other. We knew what our weaknesses were and we used them to hit each other, always me with my big smile: You are stronger, no, I am stronger.