<124>A mother of two has admitted that she “hates her 16-year-old husband” in her new marriage memoirs – as she said that anyone who embarks on lifelong life is a “masochist”.
<124>The American journalist Heather Havrileski, from <124>North Carolinawrote a new book, Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage, which comes out on Thursday.
<124>The 51-year-old woman, who shares her 12-year-old and 15-year-old daughters with her husband Bill, likened it to a “pointed Lego brick underfoot”, a “smelling pile of laundry” and a “snoring pile”. of meat.
<124>Speaking of <124>The times She described marriage as a “funny thing” about her relationship with the academician, adding: and we get frustrated all the time.
<124> <124>North Carolina-based American journalist Heather Havrileschi has admitted she “hates her 16-year-old husband” in her new marriage memoir (pictured Heather with her husband, Bill).
<124>Growing up as a child of divorced parents who “fought like cats and dogs,” Heather admitted that she grew up “idealizing” marriage.
<124>She said there were few references to happy relationships other than those portrayed by “Disney Princesses.”
<124>She started working as a journalist, giving scathing advice online, first in The Rabbit Blog, then in the Ask Poli column, which started in The Awl
<124>It migrated to New York Magazine and can now be found on Substack.
<124> <124>The 51-year-old woman, who shares her 12-year-old and 15-year-old daughters with her husband Bill, likened it to a “pointed Lego brick underfoot, a smelly pile of laundry” (pictured together)
<124>She has also written three books, including memoirs on growing up in the 1970s; anthology of advice columns; and a collection of essays.
<124>She met her husband Bill after he sent her an email praising her writing, and they married in 2006.
<124>The author said she wanted to write an honest memoir about what marriage involved, as she wanted to “throw marriage books around the room” because they felt “fake”.
<124>Heather explained that she believes there are many books on falling in love, but less on how the relationship “works long distances.”
<124> <124>Meanwhile, the author, who became well known for writing a column of advice for New York magazine, said the marriage was “crazy and completely deluded.”
<124>In the first chapter, she writes: “Every book about marriage is also a book about mortality, because the success of every marriage is determined not by happiness or luck, but by death.”
<124>“Ultimately, the task is to stay together until you die. After one husband dies, the marriage is successful. Death is a sign of victory.
<124> <124>Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage by Heather Havrileski released by Harper 360 on Thursday
<124>However, in the middle of writing the book, the author admitted that she was afraid of making a “huge” mistake.
<124>She said she became concerned about her husband’s and her children’s reactions and struggled with “how much” to reveal about her relationship.
<124>However, the author said that her husband was not “disturbed” by her revelations and “did not care” what people thought of him.
<124>While writing, she even told her husband about a chapter in which she admits that she is in love with another writer.
<124>She said it took her “10 years” to accept who her husband was and to realize that she was unable to change him.
<124>Calling the marriage a “painful adventure”, the author explains how she was diagnosed with breast cancer and her husband supported her through treatment.
<124>She said: “I hate it when people say their husband is their best friend, but he is my best friend, my therapist and my mother in one.”
<124>Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage by Heather Havrileski released by Harper 360 on Thursday