I have been with my partner for 20 years. After eight years of marriage, we had our two children in quick succession because she was having a hard time getting pregnant and she didn't want to get too involved in her career. But as soon as she returned to work after her second maternity leave, it was as if all sexual desire in her had disappeared. And we've barely had a relationship since our last five years together.
Not that I'm obsessed with sex, but I still need it more than once every three months. Since I was fine with being a little too insistent that she didn't like it, I gradually suppressed my desire to fuck until I met a woman on a dating site who was exactly like me.
We didn't fuck the first time we saw each other, but the second time was good. Since then we have seen each other at least once a week at his apartment. In the year this has been going on, I've come to realize that she responds to everything I want in a companion, and it seems she does too.
Since I had sworn to her that I would separate from my wife as soon as I was sure that I would be successful with her, she urged me to do so. In addition to not knowing how to tell my children's mother that it's over, I'm very afraid that she will stop me from seeing them. In a case like mine, what do we do to avoid losing a new love due to the extension of the deadlines?
Léry
Since you seem sure of your love for this new partner, the only way to make things right is to tell your wife with tact and sensitivity that you have someone else in your life. Dragging things out will not help you ultimately make your decision to leave her. The operation will not be without a lot of emotions, but the more logical and careful you approach it, the less your relationship with your children will deteriorate. Courage and good luck!