A young father’s wings were cut off.
A new mom took to social media to vent about a dramatic marital conflict with her husband and air travel – and about 3,000 people responded, with nearly 2,000 comments posted to date. Fox News Digital also asked for the insights of an expert.
A woman with the username MethodSubstantial580 shared that her “husband loves to travel and sometimes even does it alone,” she wrote on Reddit.
She said this earlier in their relationship: “We went together [to] some countries and it was fun to be with him.”
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But then the COVID-19 pandemic messed everything up.
She became pregnant during lockdown, she wrote – “so we sat down to talk about it because it was an accident.”
She added, “I’ve always wanted a baby anyway, just not anytime soon.”
A husband was “surprised” by the news of his wife’s pregnancy – “and had mixed feelings,” revealed one woman. (iStock)
She said her husband was “surprised” by the news of the pregnancy – “and had mixed feelings”.
The woman said: “We both took it as a sign and wanted to keep the baby, but my husband said he still wanted to travel and asked if [was] OK with that.”
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She added, “My parents said they wanted a grandchild anyway and wanted it so bad they even said they’d watch him while we went out and had fun” — that was “before I was even pregnant,” she said she.
“My husband said he still wanted to travel and asked if [was] OK with that.”
So she continued, “I knew my baby would be in good hands if we continued to do it [did] Travel, so I said yes. We made a choice to get through this pregnancy.”
The woman then wrote: “Fast forward to now. Our baby is 8 months old [old] and my husband is an amazing father. He hasn’t been anywhere since the baby was born, but occasionally he did talk about where he should travel next.”
In this picture, a baby is holding a father’s finger. One young mum wrote on social media when asking for the opinions of others: “He shouldn’t even be a day away from our baby” (not pictured). (iStock)
She then said: “I honestly thought at that point that he should stay home and be a dad because he’s a parent now. He shouldn’t even be a day away from our baby.”
She said she “told him that — and he was a little bit upset.”
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The husband, she said, “wanted to think things through,” so “he asked for a little mental space not to talk about the subject now, which I agreed to.”
“His college friend contacted him and invited him to a wedding in Taiwan.”
The woman continued, “Then literally the next day, his college friend contacted him and invited him to a wedding in Taiwan. Give him at least four or five days to visit him there.”
However, the woman said she “still said no because things [have] changed” in her life now.
Her husband, she said, “exploded” about it — “and said I broke the promise I made when I was pregnant.”
As detailed in a detailed social media post, a husband and wife (not pictured) are at odds because she told him that solo long-distance travel is out of the question now that they have a baby. He was amazed. (iStock)
She said: “He kept telling me to give the baby to my parents to take care of, but I said we wouldn’t be responsible parents if we did. He kept claiming it was responsible because we know the baby is safe, but I kept arguing that it doesn’t work that way – and I can really take him to court if he wants to leave the baby.”
The wife then announced: “He broke his game system out of anger and [got] then be silent. He only communicated about baby-related things, but he didn’t talk to me about anything else.”
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She ended her post by asking if she was wrong.
analysis of the conflict
Fox News Digital asked a clinical psychologist for input on the controversy.
dr Jayme Albin, PhD, based in New York City, said, “It’s very interesting in relationships when one partner sets a boundary or a need — and the other person doesn’t take it seriously and then assumes the partner has it in future will change his mind.”
The wife “did not take her husband’s needs, requests and wishes seriously”.
She continued: “The woman is clearly at fault here. She didn’t take her husband’s needs, wants, and desires so seriously that she made a promise based on that — and now backs out of those commitments simply because she believes his original ideas are wrong.”
Albin also said: “I have a few questions for the woman. If she knew this guy wanted to travel, why would she agree to have a child with him when she thinks the best parenting style is to stay at home?”
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She concluded: “This is a case of a person causing themselves to get gassed by ignoring their feelings – and then using this to weaponize their relationship with a child. It’s terrible.”
Many others pitched in with their own reactions and reviews.
“I can’t stand people who commit to one thing and later change their minds completely without discussion,” one commenter wrote of the marital spat. (iStock)
One person who received over 800 upvotes for the comment wrote: “I [have to] I admit I could kind of understand where she was coming from – until she accused him of abandonment and threatened to take him to court! Completely lost me with it.”
This person added, “This is just crazy. You’d think he wanted to leave the baby alone in a closet for a week instead of with her very willing and responsible parents.”
“This is just crazy.”
Another commenter, who received over 1,000 upvotes for this thought, wrote: “‘But things have changed.’ I can’t stand people who commit to one thing and later change their minds completely without discussion.”
Another person said in part in a lengthy post about the marital issue: “I don’t think so [the original poster] is the [a–hole] because she doesn’t feel ready to be a single parent for several nights, or because she doesn’t feel ready to leave her baby.”
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The person added: “I think [she] is a [a–hole] for her, an attitude that her husband is a bad father or will abandon her and the baby if he goes to a wedding alone is justified. Especially when [his ability] Traveling was originally part of the agreement to sustain the unexpected pregnancy.”
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Another commenter bluntly wrote, “I don’t understand why they can’t travel with the baby.”