A woman living in England told Jane Green about an accident that occurred on her first date with a man that has been troubling her ever since and preventing her from moving on.
The Englishwoman, who signed her letter with the name “Broken Wind”, is quick to explain that she is shy by nature and that after breaking up with her partner in 2017, she had to gather all her courage to enter into a dating relationship. Register app.
In 2021, she finally met a man with whom she had good chemistry and with whom she had hopes for the future.
Broken Wind therefore agreed to go to dinner with the man in question. The evening went perfectly, while the man she had dinner with was “charming, funny, friendly and very handsome,” she wrote to the Chron.
“But while we were having a drink, my stomach started to feel a little uncomfortable… I don’t know if it was because I was nervous or because of what I had eaten, but I kept having to excuse myself to go to the bathroom , which wasn’t exactly the most romantic way to start the evening,” says Broken Wind.
“Tears of Shame”
Her stomach finally calmed down, so the Englishwoman thought the evening would end smoothly.
“At the end of the meeting he walked me home and when he got to my door he gave me a hug. Maybe it was the pressure of the hug, the relief of getting through the meeting… but I farted,” the woman explains.
“Very strong. So loud that you couldn’t hide where it was coming from or what it was. The sound is still ringing in my ears four years later,” she adds.
Horrified, she stammered something to him and fled to her house, where she burst into “tears of shame.”
Broken Wind received a text message the next day in which the man explained that he had had a “wonderful time” but that she was unable to respond.
“I felt disgusted and terribly disgusting,” she admits.
Since then, Broken Wind refuses to spend time with anyone because she thinks back to that moment every time.
Jane Green answers
Jane Green, responding to Chron readers, assumes from the start that Broken Wind is young because “these things are much more important when you’re young,” she says, adding that as you get older, Generally getting better at it. finding humor in these situations.
She also understands that these issues, which concern basic bodily functions, are a particularly sensitive topic for women.
In any case, Ms. Green reminds us that we “focus much more on our own behavior than on that of others” and that what seems like a tragedy to us is often quickly forgotten by others.
“Imagine how you would feel as an observer: You might feel a little ashamed of them, but nowhere near as much shame as you’ve felt for too long,” she explains.