A woman has revealed how she plans to change her dating style after years of being “permanently” single.
The unidentified 28-year-old woman has revealed to British parenting site Mumsnet that she’s going to start asking men out because she’s tired of sitting around hoping a man will like me again.
The bold step is to take “the first step” toward a man she wants so she no longer has to entertain someone she has “not the slightest interest in.”
While she asked on the forum if her fearless attitude could be seen as too “pushy” or “manly,” many women responded that it was exactly how they found their husbands.
“I’m ready to take the first step,” she wrote. “Whenever I see a man I like, I’ve always been told to sit back and let him see me and let him invite me over.”
An unidentified 28-year-old woman has taken to British parenting site Mumsnet to reveal her dating style has changed after being “permanently” single for years (stock image)
“That made me 28 years old and single forever. So far I’ve only been asked out by men I’m not interested in at all and I don’t want to get to know.
She said enough is enough as it’s finally time to get going and take a “direct step” if she had any hope of a budding romance.
She continued, “How do I do this without being pushy and masculine?”
“For people who are already married, did you decide from the start that you liked each other, or did one person pursue the other and then gradually the other person began to like the other person too?”
She urged others to share anecdotes about how their relationships began, with many revealing they started the romance “multiple times”.
One person advised, “You don’t have to care.” Who told you assertiveness and openness are “masculine”? It’s terribly sexist.
“Married quite a while now.” I approached my husband, I had an excuse! I flirted, he kissed me such a mixture. However, I am not a shy, reserved flower.
Another person agreed, saying she texted her now-husband: “I’ve made the first move multiple times, including with my now-husband.”
The bold step is to take the first step towards a man she wants so that she no longer has to entertain someone she has no interest in whatsoever.
“I just texted him and asked if he’d like to go on a date and he said yes, so I set him up a night out!”
Another suggested that the poster should brush up on her flirting skills: “Nonverbal communication is a crucial part of this picture. ‘How’s flirting going?’
Meanwhile, one person revealed that she had asked her husband-to-be for both a date and his phone number, adding, “Though I took a friend with me.”
One user prepared a script for the woman to take with her: “Would you like to go out for a drink or something to eat soon? And yeah, I mean kind of a ‘date’ thing.”
They added, “If you’re even more interested in it, you can just suggest going straight to the next step.”
“No man gets offended, except maybe weirdos who have a thing for open and outgoing women.” In that case, congratulations, you just rooted out an idiot in seconds.
While she asked on the forum if her fearless attitude could be seen as too “pushy” or “manly,” many women responded that it was exactly how they found their husbands