I’m a sleep expert — that’s what it means when you keep dreaming about your ex
- Data shows that ‘dreaming of an ex’ is the sixth most popular dream in the UK
- dr Daisy Mae said it doesn’t necessarily mean you still love her
Recurring dreams about your ex can seem like a nightmare.
However, according to one sleep expert, these visions can provide insight into how you’re really feeling.
One reason your ex shows up in your dreams is because you still have feelings for them even if you don’t want to get back together, says Dr. daisy mae
Whether someone cheated, didn’t support each other, or a couple just drifted apart doesn’t mean you stop caring about your ex overnight.
dr Mae, who worked as a doctor in the NHS for 30 years, said: “That’s the answer most people don’t want to hear.”
Data shows that ‘dreaming from an ex’ is the sixth most popular dream in the UK (stock image)
“But often your ex shows up in your dream because you feel like you are unhappy with the way things have turned out.”
“It doesn’t necessarily mean you want to get back together, but you might just be unhappy that that person is no longer in your life as a friend or that you never got the closure you needed.”
“If you’ve stopped dreaming about your ex, that’s a sign you’ve moved on.”
dr Mae, from Hampshire, advises people to recognize the loss and grieve that their ex is no longer in their lives.
Having an ex appear in your dream could also indicate that you are worried about the breakup affecting a new relationship – either because you fear the relationship will end badly as well, or you fear it will hurt you again become.
Statistically, the odds are not in your favor. About four out of ten married couples in the UK and US get divorced.
dr Mae, who works with online retailer Get Laid Beds, said: “If your ex was in last night’s dream, you might be thinking about how you dealt with what happened to you that caused you to break up have, can dissolve.”
“Perhaps you worry that such situations might arise in future relationships. So just think about what you could have done differently and how you can prevent that from happening to your new lover.”
She added, “Every breakup is hard and unfortunately it’s something you carry with you through life.”
“If you think about your ex in your dream, you may fear that you will get hurt again.”
“Maybe your new relationship is showing signs of heading down the same path, which is why you start daydreaming about past hurts.”
Dreaming of a former partner can also be a sign that you lack intimacy rather than the person, says Dr. mae
Couples tend to spend a lot of time together. When that goes away, many miss not having another person to cuddle or make a cup of tea with.
dr Mae said, “Dreaming about your ex doesn’t mean you still love them — it can be a sign that you’re feeling lonely.”
“Try to develop strong relationships with friends and family to improve your level of emotional intimacy.”
“However, this doesn’t necessarily mean the sexual side, it can also mean emotional intimacy through a friend group, a family member or a current partner.”