I’m a therapist and here are three steps to how to deal with a “bad girl” and make her wish she’d never talk to you
A dating and relationship therapist has shared three psychological tips for dealing with a “bad girl.”
dr Kimberly Moffit, who goes by “Ask Kimberly” online, said the tricks can be used on a person or a “fake” friend who is talking behind your back.
The therapist said to refrain from talking about the “bad girl” with mutual friends, to put aside your anger at her, and to go one-on-one when all else fails.
dr Kimberly said the techniques would cause the “bad girls” to walk away “with their dicks between their legs” and “wish she never spoke to you.”
“Have you ever dealt with a mean girl? “Like angry, talking behind your back or maybe she’s a friend who you know doesn’t really support you,” asked the 40-year-old from Canada.
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The relationship therapist Dr. Kimberly Moffit (pictured) has revealed three psychological tricks for dealing with a “bad girl” who’s talking behind your back to “put her in her place.”
She said she had three ways people could “put a classic mean girl in her place,” which she says is “the most satisfying thing in the world.”
“When most people find out that a mean girl is talking bad about them, they start talking to their mutual friends and tell them that this girl isn’t really nice, she’s mean,” explained Dr. Kimberly.
“It’s normal to want to share the true colors of this person so everyone knows who they really are, but you’re not going to do that.”
Instead, Dr. Kimberly, to keep the woman’s name out of your mouth and not to mention her at all.
“Psychologically, when a girl speaks badly about another girl, she actually demeans herself so that she comes across as the less attractive girl,” she said.
The relationship guru said her second trick is what most people fail by suggesting curbing anger at the person you suspect is talking behind your back.
“When you have a mean girl in your life, every (social media) post she makes is going to piss you off,” she said.
“Feeling angry takes away your power and negotiation skills, which means if you’re angry with her in future deals, she’s already won.”
Third, said Dr. Kimberly to take the person away from their friends to have a one-on-one interview and address the issue.
“The reason mean girls are mean is because nobody around them is honest with them. “Her friends will sneak around her and worry about what’s going to happen if they piss her off,” she said.
“You’re going to isolate the mean girl from her friends and have a direct, heartfelt one-on-one conversation.” “This will shock her because she’s not used to it and that’s where she usually backs down.”
dr Kimberly shared the hacks with her 2 million TikTok followers in a video that was viewed more than 642,600 times.
‘Yes! Actually, I’m fed up with all the mean girls in my life. “I’ve already canceled them,” said one viewer.
“I really had to take that advice today,” replied a second.
‘It all makes sense. “Stingy people hate open people who tell the truth,” wrote a third.
Others had their own tactics for dealing with bad people, with one woman saying, ‘I had a mean girl that I worked with.’ I just backed off until everyone else saw it for themselves.’
“No – do you know why? “Because I immediately cut her off and called her,” added another.