Through a striking text posted to her Instagram account, Maïka Desnoyers looked back on her personal image and revealed that she wanted to stop comparing herself to other moms and “just love herself”.
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In a text to be read on the radio, the wife ofEtienne Boulay and mother of three to say a lot about her self-esteem, both physically and as a mother.
“When I was young I used to compare myself a lot, and for the same reason I disparaged myself without even realizing it,” she revealed from the start.
“Tsé, there are people who compare themselves and therefore find themselves better than everyone else. I was pretty much the opposite of that. Then I got pregnant with Hayden, I gave birth at 21… I focused on my son and we won’t lie, I was slim, healthy and not ugly. First of all, I didn’t have much time to compare myself.
After that, there was Anna when I was 27, and … my life and physique were pretty similar to what I was living when I was 21. And then the youngest arrives, I’m 33 years old, and everything changes,” she confided before approaching her third pregnancy.
“First, my body isn’t the same anymore. I’m 50 pounds heavier than before. I’m a lot more tired and irritable than I was when I was 21 or 27. My body is giving out and I have hernias in my back that make me walk like I’m 70 and even then I’m pretty sure my 80 year old Grandma walks better than me.
And here we go again. I start looking at others again and envying them. I look at my friends who have 1, 2 children or sometimes 3, but who are older than my 3 years. It makes it easier. Everyone looks happy. I see moms in shape… not necessarily in great shape, just in shape. I’m rushing to set up a box on the 2nd floor at home because my back is blocked.
Last weekend I was watching my son’s friends with their parents and I suddenly realized that my relationship with him wasn’t so hot that I want him to think I’m cool… and it isn’t. I even surprised myself when I realized that I was speaking poorly compared to others, that I spoke too much… in short, I felt like I was relapsing into puberty,” she continued.
“And I wanted to talk about it because I tell myself, if I’m feeling this, I can’t be the only one. It’s hard for me to compare myself to other parents, to other mothers. And I wanted you to know that even if you are like that, you are not alone.
Sometimes it also helps to put things in perspective when you know you’re not alone. It won’t suddenly make you feel like the top mom of the year, but you might pay a little more attention to how you talk to each other, what you think, and… little by little we might just stop comparing ourselves. And just love each other,” she concluded.
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One thing is for sure, his message resonates across Quebec and we hope it will soothe many moms struggling with similar thoughts.
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