Jake Maddock thinks he’s cracked the code when it comes to finding and building a ten-out-of-ten relationship after years of struggling to get it right
Men should plan and pay for every date and never move into a woman’s house, according to Australia’s self-proclaimed ‘Tough Love Dating Coach’.
Jake Maddock thinks he’s cracked the code when it comes to finding and building a ten-out-of-ten relationship after years of struggling to get it right.
And it all starts with men and women assuming their masculine and feminine roles, he claims.
Speaking to FEMAIL, the popular relationship coach revealed that learning how to navigate a relationship efficiently was the greatest achievement of his life.
“There were a good ten years of my life that were pure hell because I didn’t understand relationships at all,” he said.
“So I decided to learn about them and become a master at it. After years of studying under mentors, reading books and putting information into practice, I achieved a 10/10 relationship,” he added.
Jake believes men struggle in relationships because they are “not good at verbalizing their wants and needs or even understanding them.”
“The biggest mistakes people make are not being intimate enough, not communicating effectively, ignoring male and female energy, not dating enough, and not respecting each other,” he said.
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The controversial relationship coach believes men should lead the way in their relationships – and women should respect that (stock image)
Jake shares his five pillars for a 10/10 relationship:
1. Increase attraction. It’s easy to fall into bad habits when you’re comfortable with your other half. Not. Yes, you need to be loved for you, but keep the best parts of you front and center, the parts that they fell in love with.
2. Masculine and Feminine Energy. We are not all the same. Respect each other’s differences. Men and women do not think and act the same way. Understand and appreciate differences and use them to build a relationship that is richer instead of using them to destroy a relationship.
3. . Remember the thrill of dating. Don’t stop this thrill. A relationship withers when it settles into a monotonous routine. Boredom makes people seek excitement. It’s something we’re all wired to do.
4. Intimacy. Keep making love. Keep those intoxicating love hormones flowing. Keep the bond between you strong.
5. Communication. This one is tricky. Men and women often communicate differently. Allow honesty without being defensive. Conversely, be kind, not cruel. Mostly talk. Don’t bottle things up, especially when it comes to hurt, hurt, and anger. You can be vulnerable. Talking can forgive. And conversations can build understanding and togetherness.
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These views are reinforced in Jake’s Instagram and TikTok videos, in which he says it’s never a woman’s job to “ask a man out.”
“The guy should plan the date, come up with the idea, go on with the date, and pay for the date. Your job is to sit back and have fun,” he said in a video.
He also suggests women look for red flags in terms of commitment, explaining that men let you know if they’re interested in something long-term.
“When I say let’s go with the flow, it’s saying he doesn’t know how to date effectively,” he said – adding that it can be a cop, showing he’s just “keep sleeping with you.” ” want.
“If a guy says I want something with you someday, but he’s not making any progress and is keeping you on the sidelines, then you’re a plan B.”
He also coaches after the first few weeks of the relationship and says there are rules when it comes to moving in with a partner.
“You can build a new house together or the woman can move into the woman’s house – the man doesn’t move into the woman’s house,” he said.
“You can build a new house together or the woman can move into the woman’s house – the man doesn’t move into the woman’s house,” he said
This appears to be such that the woman can “take the man’s lead” at home without having to “give up” her own space.
The former soldier and builder has always been in “dumb” industries, which he says gives him a unique insight into how men can bury their feelings.
After a terrible car accident four years ago, he decided to pursue his love for love.
“It was a pivotal moment. I could have died,” he recalled.
“What followed was a lot of self-reflection and then deciding to pursue what would make my life truly worthwhile. A few days after being released from the hospital, I decided to give my all and become a relationship coach. I love this business.”
Five controversial pieces of advice straight from Jake Maddock’s reels:
1- Women should move in with their husbands, or couples should get a new apartment together. Men should never move in with their partner.
2- Couples have “no excuses” not to be intimate three times a week.
3- Relationships aren’t about equality – they’re about love and happiness – which is why you shouldn’t demand that things be 50/50.
4- Men have to plan, pay for and execute the entire date – and women should never ask a man out first.
5- Relationships don’t have to be fought for. In an ideal relationship, there is no fight because you both want it.
But the formal soldier’s “man-man” view seems to have had a polarizing influence on some of his listeners – many women claim his advice stretches the gap between offensive and dangerous.
One such piece of advice is that couples should be intimate at least two to three times a week throughout their relationship.
“There is no **qualified** sex or relationship therapist who would give such blanket advice…from a sexologist-in-training,” said one woman.
opinion poll
Do you think men should plan, pay for, and go through with every date?
- Yes, they have to prove their manhood! 9 votes
- No, if you are interested, the woman can arrange a date! 7 votes
- I think it has to be 50/50 when it comes to effort and cost! 19 votes
Clementine Ford commented, “You don’t have the qualifications to present yourself as a ‘relationship coach’. Advice like this is not only really dangerous and predatory, but you don’t even offer a reason for it? These are just your personal opinions,” she said.
In the controversial video, he said there were “no excuses” to let the intimacy slide.
“Of course there are no excuses. Because you don’t need an excuse not to have sex. A simple no is enough. Please learn what consent is,” said one woman.
In another video, Jake says women shouldn’t ask men out — but can offer dating suggestions.
“You want to say things like I love talking to you, when are you going to ask me out,” he said.
But his followers argued that this advice went against his male, female rule.
“If you’re trying to be feminine, you wouldn’t ask him out backwards or forwards, that’s masculine in my opinion,” said one woman.
“It’s kind of passive aggressive and not very attractive to me,” said another.
While others criticized the tactic of “rewarding lazy men with little effort”.
“I usually agree with you, but not in this case. Does a manly man need an invitation to take you out on a date? I do not think so.’