Didier lived with schizophrenia and David with a disease buried within him. Both suffered in silence.
With the same generosity as his friend Nancy Déziel, Hugo Giroux agreed to speak about loss by suicide, a long and painful path that he had to walk twice. Twice too much.
On June 5, David did not contact anyone to express his distress. If he had confided in Hugo that he was afflicted with dark thoughts, the Quebec-based actor would have jumped in his car to look for his brother in Longueuil and convince him not to do the incurable.
“David knows very well that I would have made him change his mind, because yes, he could have acted differently.”
In the past, Hugo has already consulted psychology, an approach that allowed him to better understand himself and arm himself for life and its challenges. After the death of his older brother, he felt the need to ask for help to cope with the shock.
“It wasn't easy for the people around me… I had an anger that David also had within him,” explains Hugo, who, as he says, often recognized his brother's emotional patterns.
“We have similar insecurities.”
For this reason, Hugo really wanted to convince his brother to consult him too. “And even though it's scary to get to the bottom of things…” can testify the man who today accepts his pain as it comes without repressing it.
“Sometimes I cry about nothing. That happened to me too with Didier. “You hear music and you start to cry,” says Hugo, who now carries with him the memory of his two beloved brothers, whose cruel absence inspires him to write this message for those who suffer in silence…
“Cleaning up life is long and complicated, but life is worth living. We must have the humility to face our suffering by first being kind to ourselves. Not through violence.
There's no shame in feeling inadequate, not knowing what to do and how to react, he continues. Making yourself vulnerable is a testament to great courage! Don't be afraid of what you are. Don't be afraid to cry. Don't be afraid to say: I'm no longer capable, I don't know anymore…
Above all, don't push back. Call. Anyone, but do it,” emphasizes Hugo Giroux.
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