Lucas states that it is difficult, Sandy reveals that it has been discussed. At night, after putting the child to sleep, everyone knows where homesickness strikes. And even when custody is fully shared, the nostalgia is pressing: from details about daily routines with the kids to nonsensical gossip shared over breakfast. Deciding to live far away from the person you’ve been with for decades is quite a challenge.
Part of that challenge is what both are trying to do: give new meaning to love. Is it possible to stop liking your husband, your boyfriend, your lover and continue to like your boyfriend and the father of your child? Perhaps. Even if you still like your man, it’s difficult to like him as just a friend now.
Sandy says the intimacy of 24 years together will never change. Unfortunately, this is not the case: when new relationships are formed, people change and sometimes it becomes difficult to find the person we have lived with for so long. But in this beginning of the end or new beginning of life, it is important to know how to respect others who are certainly part of us no one lives with someone for 20 years and is immune to change.
And when everything is chaos and the days are full of worries, we can then be grateful for our children. There is something that is more difficult to do alone.
“I have fragments of a life with you,” Lucas sings. Sandy replies: “Everything in its own time.”
Our habit of wanting to control eternity ends up confusing our feelings the truth is that we only have this second. And now this. And now this. After that, there’s no way to find out.