A sex expert has revealed the things she would never do in a relationship, including getting married in less than a year and waiting a certain number of dates to have sex.
Emily Jamea, 37, from Houston, Texas says following outdated dating rules and games and being lazy in a relationship is a surefire way to end a relationship.
Emma, who lives with her husband Sean, 48, a real estate developer, and their two children, said: “I would never get married in less than a year as you have to evaluate yourself and the relationship over time.
Emily Jamea, 37, (pictured with her husband Sean, 48), says she would never dream of sticking to outdated dating rules and games and becoming lazy in a relationship
The American sex expert pictured shared the five things she would never do in her own relationship
The Jameas pictured are happily married with two children and live in Houston, Texas
“I think that’s especially important for younger couples as they’re still figuring themselves out.
“Everyone is at their best during the honeymoon phase, so it’s a time when you need to see what you want out of the relationship.
“An elderly couple might be fine, but as a general guideline, it’s good to wait a year before committing.”
The second thing Emily would never do is stick to “outdated dating rules.”
Sex expert reveals what she avoids in her own relationships
- Don’t get married in less than a year as you will need to time yourself and the relationship
- Don’t stick to those silly and outdated rules like waiting three dates before having sex or holding back on texting someone back
- Prioritize your romantic relationship with your partner
- Never stop making time for intimacy
- Plan sex if that helps
- experimenting sexually
- Never criticize your partner for a sexual problem
She said: “It’s also important not to go by those silly and outdated rules and games that exist in dating – like waiting three dates to have sex or refusing to text anyone back.
“Instead, do what feels right to you.
“Games might work in the short term, but not if you’re looking for something serious.”
Emily also takes great care in making sure people don’t get lazy or too comfortable around their partner.
“My motto is, ‘Let yourself grow old, but don’t let yourself go.’
“I think we can always get lazy and complacent in relationships.
“Obviously we all have those days when we want to be in our tracksuits, but it’s good to make an effort anyway.
“We should take care of ourselves mentally and physically.
‘Keep a genuine curiosity about your partner and be curious.’
Emily says she thinks it’s important to prioritize your romantic relationship with your partner.
“I still prioritize Sean as we are our base for our entire family,” she said.
“We go out on a date every Saturday, even if we don’t feel like it, because it’s always great when we go.”
Emily, pictured, said: “It’s also important not to go by those silly and outdated rules and games that exist in dating – like waiting three dates to have sex or refusing to meet someone write back.”
She added, “It’s also important to keep the sex interesting and mix it up from time to time. “You don’t have to be crazy about Fifty Shades of Gray, but a little experimentation might help.”
The expert also wants to make sure people never stop making time for intimacy.
“I think planning sex is good if that helps,” she said.
“The statement ‘I’ll pick you up at this time so you can come over to my place’ was an indication of what you both knew was going to happen.
“Sex is effortless during the honeymoon phase, and you need to have more intention as the relationship grows.
“It’s also important to keep the sex interesting and mix it up from time to time. You don’t have to be crazy about Fifty Shades of Gray, but experimenting might help.”
After all, Emily would never criticize her partner for a sexual problem.
“Many of my clients who come to me with a sexual issue are very upset by how their partner is reacting,” she said.
“It is important to react neutrally.
“Your problem may have nothing to do with what you are doing and may be something that can be found out and worked on.
“If a partner comes to you with an intimacy issue, it’s good to pause for a moment before responding.”