Lisa Vanderpump stood up for Tom Sandoval after he expressed suicidal thoughts on Tuesday's episode of Vanderpump Rules on Bravo.
The 63-year-old English restaurateur was motivated to intervene after Sandoval, 40, expressed dark thoughts that reminded her of the suicide of her only brother Mark in 2018.
Lisa invited Scheana Shay, 39, and Lala Kent, 33, to her Rosa mansion in Beverly Hills and they stopped by on the way to a pool party hosted by James Kennedy, 32.
“Look, I really, really want to talk to you about so many things, and I don't think you're going to like everything I have to say,” Lisa said.
“Well, what's it about?” Lala asked.
Lisa Vanderpump stood up for Tom Sandoval after he expressed suicidal thoughts on Tuesday's episode of Vanderpump Rules on Bravo
“I spent time with Sandoval. I really know for a fact that he is in a very dark place. “I know that,” Lisa said.
“I'm mad because I contacted him when his friend died.” I sent a very nice text message. What has he done? He blocked me. He's diving into this villainous energy and I'm not here for it. He needs to humble himself, have some humility. And I told him to find a good therapist,” Scheana said.
Scheana said in a confessional that Sandoval took no responsibility for his months-long affair with Rachel Leviss, 29, behind the back of his girlfriend Ariana Madix, 38.
“So, Lisa says he’s depressed, guess what? I did not see that. “I just saw him projecting,” Scheana added.
Lisa told them that Sandoval might be “angry,” “upset,” or “don’t know what he’s doing.”
“No, he's actually doubling down,” Lala said as she revealed that Tom had recently called her a “narcissist.”
Lala continued to beat Sandoval, but Lisa stood up for him.
“I see Tom Sandoval as a man who is a shadow of his former self.” “I never want anyone to fall into that kind of depression when you feel like the whole world is against you,” Lisa said in a confessional.
Sandoval, 40, told Billie Lee during the season 11 episode that he wasn't dating him and was “saving himself” for his lover Rachel Leviss.
“I spent time with Sandoval. I really know for a fact that he is in a very dark place. “I know that,” Lisa said
“I'm mad because I contacted him when his friend died.” I sent a very nice text message. What has he done? He blocked me. He's diving into this villainous energy and I'm not here for it. He needs to humble himself, have some humility. And I told him to find a good therapist,” Scheana said
“No, he's actually doubling down,” Lala said as she revealed that Tom had recently called her a “narcissist.”
“I see Tom Sandoval as a man who is a shadow of his former self.” “I never want anyone to fall into that kind of depression when you feel like the whole world is against you,” Lisa said in a confessional
Lisa referred to her late brother Mark and appealed to Scheana and Lala to treat Sandoval more calmly.
“I saw depression. I know he's depressed. I remember the words when my brother was depressed. It will always stay with me. There is only so much a person can take before they collapse. “I don’t want to be in a situation where we regret it,” Lisa said, her voice rising.
Then she fell into a whisper as she spoke to them.
“I never thought suicide would affect my life,” she said in a quiet voice.
“Looking back, my brother saying he was depressed was a real trigger for me because he was depressed.” So where is he now? “Well, Tom Sandoval isn't the type of person to say he's had suicidal thoughts unless he's serious,” Lisa said as Lala and Scheana fought back tears.
Lala said she was tired of being angry all the time, and Scheana admitted that it was difficult for her to lose Sandoval as a friend while remaining faithful to Ariana.
“Is it worth losing Ariana?” Scheana asked through tears.
Scheana pondered her conundrum in the confessional.
“Looking back, my brother saying he was depressed was a real trigger for me because he was depressed.” So where is he now? “Well, Tom Sandoval isn't the type of person to say he's had suicidal thoughts unless he's serious,” Lisa said as Lala and Scheana fought back tears
Lala said she was tired of being angry all the time
“Is it worth losing Ariana?” Scheana asked through tears
“Ariana has made it very clear that anyone who decides to stay friends with Tom Sandoval is basically dead to her. “But at the same time, if someone is really struggling at that level, how can I continue to pick them up?” Scheana said to the camera.
Lisa asked if Sandoval would be heading to Lake Tahoe for the upcoming trip to celebrate the opening of her new restaurant.
“Maybe it would be a good idea if he left. Let's just stop attacking him. “None of us are perfect, are we?” said Lisa.
Sandoval, on the other hand, was shown undergoing an ice bath treatment with his girlfriend Billie Lee in the Season 11 episode titled “Dog Days Of Summer” and admitted to still having feelings for Rachel, following the so-called Scandoval affair changed her name from Raquel.
Billie asked Sandoval if he was thinking about dating.
'I'm not doing that. However, I really miss Raquel,” said Sandoval, who revealed he hadn’t spoken to her in more than three weeks.
Sandoval said in a confessional that the last time he spoke to Raquel, he didn't think it would be the last time.
In a flashback from 27 days earlier, he was seen crying while talking into his phone.
“Ariana has made it very clear that anyone who decides to stay friends with Tom Sandoval is basically dead to her. “But at the same time, if someone is really struggling at that level, how can I continue to pick them up?” Scheana said to the camera
Sandoval, on the other hand, was shown undergoing an ice bath treatment with his girlfriend Billie Lee in the Season 11 episode titled “Dog Days Of Summer” and admitted to still having feelings for Rachel, following the so-called Scandoval affair changed her name from Raquel
'I'm not doing that. However, I really miss Raquel,” said Sandoval, who revealed he hadn’t spoken to her in more than three weeks
Sandoval was seen crying while speaking into his phone to Raquel in a flashback from 27 days earlier
“I love you and, uh, I'll be gone for the next, uh… 10 days or so.” “I'll see you when I get back,” Sandoval told her.
Sandoval told the camera that in that conversation, Raquel told him that she was extending her time in a facility.
“I told her I loved her and that we would talk later,” Sandoval added.
Sandoval told Billie about the strength of their relationship.
“What we had was definitely love.” That's why I was so addicted to it. That's why I couldn't see anything else. It's not like we just hung out and had sex. “Hanging out was the best damn part,” he said.
“I hope we can at least give whatever this is a chance.” “Basically, I'm saving myself for Raquel,” Sandoval added in a confessional.
Billie said she was tired of the world hating Sandoval.
“I just wish people knew how hurt you are because there were times when I thought, I literally thought we could have lost you,” Billie said.
“I love you and, uh, I'll be gone for the next, uh… 10 days or so.” “I'll see you when I get back,” Sandoval told her
“What we had was definitely love.” That's why I was so addicted to it. That's why I couldn't see anything else. It's not like we just hung out and had sex. “Hanging out was the best damn part,” he said
“I hope we can at least give whatever this is a chance.” “Basically, I'm saving myself for Raquel,” Sandoval added in a confessional
“I just wish people knew how hurt you are because there were times when I thought, I literally thought we could have lost you,” Billie said
“I came close a few times,” Sandoval said. “When you get into that mood, I really have to get myself out of that mood.”
Sandoval told the camera more about the thought process.
“I had all kinds of feelings running through my head – pain, anger, sadness, depression, desolation.” I lost all my friends. And I felt like maybe it was the best way to show that I'm sorry and that I feel like everyone wants me to go away,” Sandoval said.
He told Billie that he just wanted to be happy again but felt like he wasn't allowed to.
James and his girlfriend Ally Lewber hosted a pool party at their new Burbank home.
Schwartz and Lala reconciled after a heated exchange and Schwartz vowed that he would not abandon Sandoval.
Scheana told Ariana at the party about the conversation with Lisa about Sandoval, but Ariana showed little sympathy for him.
“I can understand that he may have had some thoughts and feelings, but those thoughts and feelings are based on a situation he created where he didn't give a damn about anyone else's mental health.” “I know I'm saying “That damn it, but it just feels a little… annoying,” Ariana said in a confessional.
“I had all kinds of feelings running through my head – pain, anger, sadness, depression, desolation.” I lost all my friends. And I felt like maybe it was the best way to show that I'm sorry and that I feel like everyone wants me to go away,” Sandoval said
“I can understand that he may have had some thoughts and feelings, but those thoughts and feelings are based on a situation he created where he didn't give a damn about anyone else's mental health.” “I know I'm saying “That damn it, but it just feels a little… annoying,” Ariana said in a confessional
Ariana said at the party that Sandoval was a “fucking scary person” and that she didn't trust a word that came out of his mouth.
Sandoval later visited Schwartz, who invited him to Lake Tahoe.
Schwartz advised Sandoval to be humble on the trip after he expressed his ongoing anger over Lala and Scheana talking about him on their podcasts.
Ariana and Katie Maloney previously said they would not be taking part in the trip due to the possibility that Sandoval would attend.
Katie said she would rather “eat jeans” than leave and insisted she had to work at the sandwich shop with Ariana.
James and Ally later went out with Scheana and Brock after Scheana found two babysitters for her daughter, Ocean Moon.
Scheana told them about her conversation with Lisa in which she asked her to go easy on Sandoval.
Sandoval later visited Schwartz, who invited him to Lake Tahoe
Schwartz advised Sandoval to be humble on the trip after he expressed his ongoing anger over Lala and Scheana talking about him on their podcasts
James and Ally later went out with Scheana and Brock after Scheana found two babysitters for her daughter, Ocean Moon
James said that Lisa asked him to come over the next day for a conversation and assumed it was the same conversation about Sandoval.
However, Lisa surprised James by reuniting him with his beloved dog Graham Cracker, who was rescued after being abandoned at a shelter.
James cried after seeing his “best friend” Graham again and happily took him home.
Vanderpump Rules will return next week on Bravo.