This video captures the moment a tearful Ben Ofoedu admitted he cheated on his ex, Vanessa Feltz.
TV and radio star Vanessa, 60, announced she had split from Phats & Small singer Ben, 50, last week after he claimed he had been unfaithful with his electronic dance music act during a tour of UK holiday parks .
And now a video has shown the emotional moment in which he admitted he “threw his life away” by sleeping with an elderly woman three times after meeting her in Ibiza.
Ben has also admitted he was sexting with a Phats & Small fan and that he was flirting with another woman at a Butlin’s.
In the video he says: “First of all I would like to apologize to Vanessa and also to my family. This past week has been incredibly painful. I have never experienced so much abuse.
Regret: This video captures the moment a tearful Ben Ofoedu admitted he cheated on his ex-girlfriend Vanessa Feltz
“I will always love Vanessa, she is the queen of my heart, she was my everything. But I was incredibly foolish and stupid. I just have to put my hands up and be honest. I really regret it – where to start!
“It was a lot. It’s about my behavior, I have to look after myself. I’ve done a lot of soul searching in the last three weeks. I’m not here to point fingers, I’m here to say I am and I need to work on myself.
“I don’t come from a family that has discussed therapy, but I would like to see a therapist now. I need someone to help me put things in order. There were two situations that caused me to effectively throw my life away.’
Ben previously told The Mirror about the Ibiza affair: “I met her on the gig scene. She was the same age as Vanessa, possibly older. She beamed at me, said many nice things.
“In a short time we had sex three times. It was purely sexual, there were no feelings involved. It felt like a chore. I just got back into her to keep her sweet and all under wraps.
Ben said he was struggling to come to terms with Vanessa’s apparent lack of desire to get married, even though the couple got engaged in 2006.
He explained: “I cheated because I wasn’t sure. The girl in Ibiza said things like “You’re such a great guy. I don’t know why you’re not married. Who wouldn’t want to marry you?” That coupled with alcohol was a recipe for disaster. It was an explosive situation. That’s why this happened.”
Vanessa previously said she was reluctant to remarry after her divorce from doctor ex-husband Michael Kurer in 2000.
Sad: TV and radio star Vanessa, 60, announced she had split from Phats & Small singer Ben, 50, last week after it was claimed he met him while touring UK holiday parks with his electronic dance music act cheated
Coming clean: And now a video has shown the moment he admitted to having “thrown his life away” by sleeping with an elderly woman three times after meeting her in Ibiza – after describing the dalliance as an “annoying Duty” had described.
It comes after it emerged Vanessa allegedly found out her ex-fiancé cheated on her on Christmas day when his lover trolled her daughter online.
Vanessa’s daughter, Allegra Kurer, shared how the family was devastated to learn of Ben’s alleged behavior.
Allegra, 37, and her younger sister Saskia, 34, received the dreadful news over the holidays and knew they had to tell their mum.
She said: “It was on Christmas Day of all days. We were all together as a family, but Ben was out in pantomime when the news broke via Instagram.
Honestly: In the clip he says: “I will always love Vanessa, she is the queen of my heart, she was my everything. But I was incredibly stupid and stupid’
Admitting his actions: He continued: “There were two situations that led to me effectively throwing my life away.”
“Up until that moment we were having a really nice time, the kids were having a nice time, so just getting that through a social media account was the most terrifying shock for us.
“It was anonymous and of course it revealed a lot of things we didn’t know – but it was also very abusive and extremely hurtful,” she told The Sun.
Allegra said it was “terrible” when the time came to tell Vanessa about the messages, which she described as “abusive.”
Shock: It came after Vanessa found out her ex-fiancé Ben cheated on her on Christmas Day when his lover trolled their daughter Allegra online (Vanessa and Allegra pictured in 2021)
While noting that the messages were anonymous, Allegra said there was enough information to know the claims against Ben were true.
Allegra added that she contacted the police about the news and hopes something can be done about it.
She added that Ben, who Vanessa had been with for 16 years, had been such a close part of her family for so long that the split was “devastating” for all of them.
At the time, Web contacted representatives of Ben Ofoedu with a request for comment.
It comes after Vanessa enjoyed a post-breakup refreshment and went to the hairdresser on Thursday.
Relationship: The broadcaster has been having a tough time lately after announcing she’d split from her partner of 16
Heartbreaking: Allegra, 37, and her younger sister Saskia, 34, (pictured) received the dreadful news over the holidays and knew they had to tell their mum
Staying positive, Vanessa decided to indulge a little, explaining, “If all else fails, get the barnet fixed.”
The TV and radio star shared an update on Instagram and was in good spirits as she spoke to her fans from the barber chair.
“I’m at the hairdresser’s in the morning and what I’m thinking is if all else fails the barnett gets fixed,” she quipped.
She later shared a photo of the transformation in progress as she waited for her cut after washing.
Vanessa recently revealed that she’s trying her best to “put on a brave face” following their breakup.
Speaking to Ulrika Jonsson on her TalkTV show on Wednesday, Vanessa admitted she’s trying to stay positive for her audience.
New do: It comes after Vanessa enjoyed a post-breakup refreshment and went to the hairdresser on Thursday
She said: “I’m doing my best to put on a brave face. After all, I’m at work, that’s my job.
“I don’t want to burden my listeners and viewers with looking thoroughly miserable so that they’re afraid to watch the program and be like, ‘Oh god, is Vanessa breaking down before our eyes?’ So I try to do a professional job and persevere.
The TV personality said she had a moment of sadness on her way to work earlier this week.
She said: “I had a moment on the escalator coming out of the subway on Monday and I was like, ‘Oh God.’
Place of pampering: Vanessa remained positive and opted for a place of pampering, stating, “If all else fails, the barnet will be fixed.”
Journalist Vanessa and Ben first met in 2005 after she divorced surgeon Michael Kurer in 2000, whom she discovered also allegedly cheated on her.
She and Michael were married for 17 years and have daughters Allegra, 37, and Saskia, 34.
Speaking of Ben’s alleged infidelity, Vanessa This Morning said: “It wasn’t me who told anyone about it, I tried to keep it as private as possible.
“You know that everyone knows your private affairs, but then again, you don’t have to explain it all the time and everyone cuddles with you.”
And when discussing the 10-year age difference with Ben, Vanessa said: “I’ve never really known why I’m of interest, he was younger, I was older. We were different.
“It’s over now, I don’t know.”
Candid: Vanessa revealed that she’s trying her best to “put on a brave face” following her breakup with Ben.
She added: “It helps when people say you shouldn’t feel stupid for believing in your partner or feel stupid for believing in someone you love.
“It’s not ridiculous. I’m sad, I feel hurt, terribly humiliated, but many have said you shouldn’t do it. But believing in your relationship is not stupid.”
Vanessa was asked if she felt Ben was being unfaithful or if her discovery came as a complete shock.
She said: “Both, I think, a terrible shock and kind of a gradual thing. It’s often the case, a mix of both.
Split: The channel announced in recent days that she and her fiancé had split after allegations he had ‘cheated with several other women’ (pictured in 2018)
“I don’t really want to go into anything and just focus on the future and that there is a future. I want them to exist. To really gather all the love and spend time having a good time.
“We’re making a heartbroken call, I don’t know, but if they could call and help me and give advice.
She later said on the show, “I want to fall in love again. I like that I was raised to do it. If I can’t, I’ll give lots of love.’
Vanessa added that she would be “going out” after the show.
She said: “Who knows, maybe I’ll meet someone tonight! When it happens, you will be the first to know.’
Honestly: Vanessa was asked This Morning if she felt Ben was unfaithful or if it was a complete shock. She said: “Both, I think, a terrible shock and kind of a gradual thing.”
On the road: It has been claimed that Ben’s return to touring with Phats & Small (pictured) at holiday parks across the UK led to his alleged roaming eye (Ben pictured with bandmate Jason Phats, right, in 2008)
“If anyone wants it from me I can hand it out, but if you wanted to call and tell me, I feel like I’m in the eye of the storm right now.
“I would be so grateful for the advice.”
Vanessa previously shared a video saying: “I’m so glad to live longer than my mum, she passed away at 57 and for the Lord’s prayers I will be 61 next month.
“I’m very, very grateful to be alive and I want to keep feeling that way, and I want to celebrate and find fun and laughter wherever I can.
“I know it won’t be easy, but I’m absolutely determined to do it.”
Alongside the video, Vanessa wrote, “I missed you #brokenheart #onwardsandupwards #love #life #friends #family #thankyou.”
Ben broke his silence by simply sharing a heartbroken emoji on social media.
Pros: Vanessa previously shared a video saying: ‘I’m so glad to live longer than my mother, she passed away at 57 and for the Lord’s prayers I will be 61 next month