Women have shared the heartbreaking moments they realized their relationships were doomed – including a husband who didn’t visit his newborn in the hospital because he was “tired”.
On British parenting forum Mumsnet, an unnamed woman claimed her last straw was when her husband didn’t call to check she was safe after her work told him she hadn’t turned up.
The woman said she never forgave her husband, who apologized that “the police would have contacted him” if she had been in an accident.
More women took advantage of the comments to reveal their “eureka moment” in their relationships, with one claiming it was when her husband “got a card” from an ex, while another brought his girlfriend over to his home while she was in the hospital.
Women Discussed What Their “It’s Over” Moments In Their Marriages Were On Mumsnet (stock image)
The original poster started the thread by explaining her story, saying, “What was your ‘that’s over’ moment in your marriage?
“He’s a good man, hardworking, loyal, so there’s no way I want to portray him as a villain. However, I can’t stop thinking about something he said to me and in that moment I knew it was that, that I wanted more.
‘During the really bad weather before Christmas – snow, sleet, wind, heavy rain… I had a 9am appointment at work. I was 20 minutes late for work (not a lot of time, but still!).
“My work didn’t know where I was and tried to call me to see if I was ok as the person I was meeting with was waiting for me to arrive. They accidentally called my emergency contact who is my (soon to be ex) husband. They had told him it was a mistake to call him as they were trying to call me since I hadn’t turned up for work.
The woman explained she never forgave her husband after he said he wasn’t worried she might have been in an accident because “the police would have contacted him” if it had been her
Another woman said she is still with her husband but has considered leaving him a number of times because of his hurtful behavior
“I then arrived, started my meeting as soon as possible, and later found out about this phone call to my husband, which I totally forgot about until I went home that evening.
“When I was home and after we had dinner and watched TV, it came to my mind. I asked, “My work said they called you today, why didn’t you say anything?
Him: “Oh, I forgot, something about you didn’t show up.” Me: “Yes, but why didn’t you try to contact me to make sure I’m ok, I could have had an accident. “
‘Er: “I was busy at work, they wanted to contact you”. I “I know, but weren’t you worried? What if I had been in an accident, wouldn’t you feel guilty??”.
‘He: “I’m sure the police would have contacted me if you had been in an accident.”
“I don’t think I’ve ever forgiven him for that comment. He wasn’t in a great place at the time, but he didn’t care, not one bit. What was your eureka moment?’
More women took advantage of the comments to reveal their “eureka moment” in their relationship, with one claiming it was when her husband “got a card” from an ex
One woman said: “I’m still in my marriage. [We have] two daughters so it is full hoping it will get easier with time etc.
“But there have been a few things that have happened where I’ve been like, ‘I’ll never forget this and I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to forgive it.’
“That was once when our daughter was 10 months old. She had a medical problem and we were supposed to take her to the hospital for a check-up (999 was not required). Was snowing and couldn’t get the car out so had to walk there for about 40 minutes.
“He let me walk her alone in the ankle deep snow in the baby carrier with the holdall on his back while he worked, and ‘it wasn’t a good use of his time to come either.’
‘[Our second daughter] was a bit of a surprise, but we weren’t that responsible. When I was about seven weeks old, driving home from a vacation, he accused me of “fixing the pregnancy.” He “wanted to be there but wasn’t sure in what capacity” and “wasn’t sure if he still loves me.” I managed to get through it, but it hurt and ruined what should have been a happy time.
“We have ups and downs, like most couples. But I find my thoughts on these incidents (among other things).’
However, some people thought the original poster was petty and labeled them “high-maintenance.”
Another wrote: “My ex was an alcoholic. I had a minor operation and had to be monitored by someone at home for 24 hours.
“I asked him to get me some painkillers as we got out of the taxi I was driving to the house. It was four hours before he got home without any pills. I was angry. We underwent IVF at the time and I made the decision there and then it was over.
While someone else said: “I think sometimes it’s a case that breaks the camel’s back.
“For me it was when [my daughter] was born and did not show up at the hospital the next morning because he was “tired”. I was afraid it was the only time I needed him and he wasn’t there. I tried to get over it but couldn’t.’
A fourth wrote: “When he told me he would kill me if I left. Apparently my brain went “lol, I dare you!”.
“Honestly, I felt like he was going to kill me either way, and at least it would be harder if there was a locked door between us when I was sleeping.”
However, not everyone was so sympathetic to the woman who initiated the discussion.
One person wrote: “You sound like a terribly high maintenance person. Sorry but that’s how I read it. What a fuss about something trivial.’
Another said: “You are very high maintenance.” Another wrote: “Yeah, sorry you sound high maintenance. I wouldn’t end a marriage because of any of your examples. I’m sure you knew what he was like before you got married.”
While a fourth person said: “It would have been nice to text you but he forgot. I mean doing things, then getting distracted and forgetting. It’s human.’
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